Could a man be using you if he has told you from the beginning of a relationship that he doesn't want to get too close yet he seems to do it reluctantly?

He has said he doesn't want to be emotionally intimate and he behaves as though it bothers him to be emotionally intimate. It may be quite easy for him to be friends with you and enjoy sex with you--it doesn't mean he's looking for anything more than that.

He's not a good relationship prospect if you are looking for someone who would truly desire to be committed to you long term. It just means you're not compatible with him.