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No the abuser does not love that person they love controlling and abusing that person and that's it.

It is difficult for there to be love in an abusive relationship. The abuser can not truly give love or receive it because he or she is mentally disabled. The abusive personality is a mental disorder and the abuser needs to seek psychiatric help.

An abusive relationship is not a healthy one and no matter what the abuser says, he or she can not love you, it is obsession and control that drives an abusive partner.

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Can domestic abuse and Stockholm Syndrome collide Meaning can feeling guilty while being abused be called Stockholm Syndrome?

An abused person can identify with their abuser. The abuse itself would not be called Stockholm Syndrome. How the abused feels about the abuser would be Stockholm Syndrome.

How many animals are being abused?

No one really knows how many animals are being abused, just this moment even. But all we can do is not abuse our animals, join non-abuser clubs, like ASPCA online community, and help abused animals.

Do kids being abused have trust issues?

yes, because they are threatened by the abuser

Can there be true love in an abusive relationship?

No. absolutely not. If you are being abused the person who is abusing you does not truly love you. the Abuser makes you feel responsible for his/her actions. therefore making you believe you are in love with that person.

Is it possible that an abused can ended up being an abuser?

yes if someone is abused they might abuse people when there older because that's what they remember

Why does men abused women?

It is not that men abuse woman, not all men abuse woman, and there are woman who abuse men. It is a person who abuses another person. And that means that the abuser has a problem whether it be that he was abused as a child, or abused in another relationship, or that he is just a very angry person. You should not be with a person who abuses you under any circumstances. It could lead to something alot worse. He has a problem and should get help and you should not be with him until you are sure that he is cured. Being abused will make you miserable and you will never be able to forgive your abuser. Get out of the situation before it gets worse and leads to something that will completely change you as a person or cause you a harm that you can not come back from.

Why womens are being sexually abused?

There are many reasons that women have been sexually abused. It is usually not reason by the woman, though, that causes the abuse. Sometimes it is because the abuser was abused and it is a cycle. Sometimes the abuser is mentally unstable. Other time the abuser sexually abuses the woman as a punishment or to hurt them. There are many causes, but all are wrong and sexual abuse is always bad.

How do you reason with an abuser?

Reasoning with an abuser is not something the abused person should probably try. Most abusers are very good at manipulation. If you try to discuss it with them, you may be disappointed and become more hurt and angry. If they are an abuser, they already know it, but do not expect them to admit it.Rather then reason with them, you should talk to someone that you trust about it. It might be hard to admit to someone that you are being abused, but it is better to face your fear by reaching out to someone then continuing to be abused.

What other forms of manipulation do abusers use besides being nice and apologetic to reunite with a partner after a break-up?

There are a number of ways that abusers use to try to reunite the relationship. These kinds of people will play the "guilt card" which is kinda like a "poor-me" type of manipulation. Other ways are through gifts like flowers, a card, dinner, etc.; even just questions like "how are you gonna take care of yourself on your own?" and from what I've seen is this form of manipulation where the abused comes running back to the abuser. What happens is that the abused person becomes so used to being treated that way that can't see themselves happy. So by choice, the person who was abused goes running back to the one who abused them. the worst one is when the abuser gets more abusive to try to scare the person back to being with them. And when they do that, its gets real dangerous cause the abuser can possibly take it to extremes.

How can you make someone understand an abuser's so-called rules are not really standard rules to live by but rather justifications for his cruel treatment?

you can't. if your being abused or someone else is being abused....GET OUT. abuse will not stop. there are plenty of hotlines to call with counslers. dont wait do it now. local phone book should have listings.

Will my boyfriend be an abuser if he yells at his mom?

Answer:The Boyfriend might become an abuser, but in the long run he will learn from his mistakes and i believe no, he will not become an abuser, if you feel like your being abused walk away =3

How do you know that you are not the one who is crazy or PMS'ing and that he is really emotionally abusive?

I think that you answered your own question by saying that for a while you believed it. Abusers manipulate their partners into believing that they are the one at fault. You are being abused, if: (1) He repeats a certain behavior (2) You asked him to stop (for whatever reason). (3) He refuses and continues to behave the way he has. You may well be abusing him - but that does not mean that he is not being abusive towards you. Both parties are sometimes abusive towards each other. Please read the related link below. people who are abusers rarely consider that they might be abusive. even if the stresses of the relationship lead into what might be considered reactive abuse, anyone who honestly tries to adjust to the other person's actual needs, actively listens to the other person, and makes every attempt to stop such behavior, probably is not an abuser. abusers do not take responsibility for their own actions, and in fact often blame the abused. when the abused person reacts to the abuse, the abuser calls that reaction abuse, and will use guilt to try to get the abused to feel responsible for the arguments or difficulties, as well as for the abuser's actions. this is one of the reasons getting away from an abuser is so important. everything clarifies then.

What should a child do if being abused?

Tell someone, who is in a position of authority and trust. Someone who is not related to the abuser is more likely to help you.

She got abused when she was smallso she abused him?

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What can you do if you know someone who is being abused and won't tell anyone because of their siblings?

what I would do is contact the police or tell someone really close to the abused person if it's true and no lies

How do you ask a child if they are being abused?

take the child to a place where he or she will feel safe and you know he or she won't have any contact of the abuser and carefully ask the question

How do you handle your own family when they are trying to encourage the abuser to abuse you and where can you turn for help wih this situation?

I wish you had given a little more information, but being abused is being abused. There are Women's Centers in your area and you can go there for help. They have councilors there that will help you, and also ways to leave the abuser environment you are in. If you are too upset to find one, then go to your local Mental Health office and they will guide you to them. Good luck Marcy

What can you do to prevent the abuser from attacking you?

You are being both psychologically and physically abused. There is nothing YOU can do to prevent the attacks because the abuser LIKES attacking you. Report this individual to law enforcement or Social Services as soon as possible. If you are a female, try to contact an abused womens organization for assistance. Don't continue to tolerate it, or you could end up severely injured or dead.

Are you being abusive when you're the one being emotionally abused and you withhold affection?

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If you know a child is being abused can you remove him from that home?

You can telephone Child Aid in the U.S., and Child Welfare in Canada and your name will be kept anonymous. The person or persons that knows child abuse is going on and turns the other way is no better than the abuser.

What is the typical personality of an abused woman?

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How to tell when you are being abused?

You are being abused if you get forced to do things you don't really enjoy, or if things are done to you that you don't fully want yourself.

What medical help does a drug abuser need?

i don't know Most likely counseling, possibly medication. Would depend on the drug being abused for treatment options

Can an abuse victim get to a point where they seem to be emulating the abuser without realizing it when they just have had enough of being manipulated and controlled and are starting to fight back?

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Why do you always feel sorry for the abuser?

Anyone who would have that much hatred and violence towards another human being who is willing to stay by their side is truly very hateful of themself. It's painfully obvious to the victim that this person hates themself and is not well. In addition, many times people who are abused are kind hearted folks who have too much patience and understanding and stay trying to "fix" the abuser. They see much more so the "hurt" in the abuser which is the core of the problem instead of how much they're suffering from the abuse.