Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence

Does the abuser really love the person being abused?


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2011-09-13 00:35:35
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No the abuser does not love that person they love controlling and abusing that person and that's it.

It is difficult for there to be love in an abusive relationship. The abuser can not truly give love or receive it because he or she is mentally disabled. The abusive personality is a mental disorder and the abuser needs to seek psychiatric help.

An abusive relationship is not a healthy one and no matter what the abuser says, he or she can not love you, it is obsession and control that drives an abusive partner.


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An abused person can identify with their abuser. The abuse itself would not be called Stockholm Syndrome. How the abused feels about the abuser would be Stockholm Syndrome.

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No. absolutely not. If you are being abused the person who is abusing you does not truly love you. the Abuser makes you feel responsible for his/her actions. therefore making you believe you are in love with that person.

yes if someone is abused they might abuse people when there older because that's what they remember

Reasoning with an abuser is not something the abused person should probably try. Most abusers are very good at manipulation. If you try to discuss it with them, you may be disappointed and become more hurt and angry. If they are an abuser, they already know it, but do not expect them to admit it.Rather then reason with them, you should talk to someone that you trust about it. It might be hard to admit to someone that you are being abused, but it is better to face your fear by reaching out to someone then continuing to be abused.

Answer:The Boyfriend might become an abuser, but in the long run he will learn from his mistakes and i believe no, he will not become an abuser, if you feel like your being abused walk away =3

There are many reasons that women have been sexually abused. It is usually not reason by the woman, though, that causes the abuse. Sometimes it is because the abuser was abused and it is a cycle. Sometimes the abuser is mentally unstable. Other time the abuser sexually abuses the woman as a punishment or to hurt them. There are many causes, but all are wrong and sexual abuse is always bad.

It is not that men abuse woman, not all men abuse woman, and there are woman who abuse men. It is a person who abuses another person. And that means that the abuser has a problem whether it be that he was abused as a child, or abused in another relationship, or that he is just a very angry person. You should not be with a person who abuses you under any circumstances. It could lead to something alot worse. He has a problem and should get help and you should not be with him until you are sure that he is cured. Being abused will make you miserable and you will never be able to forgive your abuser. Get out of the situation before it gets worse and leads to something that will completely change you as a person or cause you a harm that you can not come back from.

Tell someone, who is in a position of authority and trust. Someone who is not related to the abuser is more likely to help you.

There are a number of ways that abusers use to try to reunite the relationship. These kinds of people will play the "guilt card" which is kinda like a "poor-me" type of manipulation. Other ways are through gifts like flowers, a card, dinner, etc.; even just questions like "how are you gonna take care of yourself on your own?" and from what I've seen is this form of manipulation where the abused comes running back to the abuser. What happens is that the abused person becomes so used to being treated that way that can't see themselves happy. So by choice, the person who was abused goes running back to the one who abused them. the worst one is when the abuser gets more abusive to try to scare the person back to being with them. And when they do that, its gets real dangerous cause the abuser can possibly take it to extremes.

what I would do is contact the police or tell someone really close to the abused person if it's true and no lies

Yes, abuse is definitely something that is a learned behavior. That's not to say that everyone that is abused will become abusive but there is definitely a correlation between abusers being abused themselves. It's sad because in so many cases the victim becomes the abuser.

take the child to a place where he or she will feel safe and you know he or she won't have any contact of the abuser and carefully ask the question

You are being abused if you get forced to do things you don't really enjoy, or if things are done to you that you don't fully want yourself.

No. Many times the abuser will tell you you are being abusive as a way to manipulate you into giving affection, which continues the abuse, as manipulation can be a form of abuse.

i don't know Most likely counseling, possibly medication. Would depend on the drug being abused for treatment options

I wish you had given a little more information, but being abused is being abused. There are Women's Centers in your area and you can go there for help. They have councilors there that will help you, and also ways to leave the abuser environment you are in. If you are too upset to find one, then go to your local Mental Health office and they will guide you to them. Good luck Marcy

You are being both psychologically and physically abused. There is nothing YOU can do to prevent the attacks because the abuser LIKES attacking you. Report this individual to law enforcement or Social Services as soon as possible. If you are a female, try to contact an abused womens organization for assistance. Don't continue to tolerate it, or you could end up severely injured or dead.

You can telephone Child Aid in the U.S., and Child Welfare in Canada and your name will be kept anonymous. The person or persons that knows child abuse is going on and turns the other way is no better than the abuser.

There really isn't a set in stone personality for a woman who has or is being abused. They could become very jittery, shy, closed off, quiet, self-blaming. Some may become very violent themselves. Some go into a deep depression. There are many different ways of telling if a woman has or is being abused. if she gets jumpy or shaky or what not when knowing her abuser is coming or whatever she most likely is. Many different ways you can tell.

his mental condition's face and his speech.

Yes, they will become defensive when that person is again present.

If you are being abused you need to tell someone!

The person being abused and any children who are there to witness it are victims.

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