How can you get someone to go to counseling?
You can lead a horse to water, but can't make them drink. This person has to find their own way in their own time. Some people just don't get it right away and need to hit bottom before they get help. Who are you to decide who needs counselling? Are you a professional, or maybe just a bully? Often times in my experience a person asking a question such as this is indeed the aggressor and believes themselves to be in the right and it is the other person who needs help. I know of a case where the husband *decided* that the wife *needed* counselling and that he himself was perfectly well balanced ..... this person followed his wife around with a tape recorder recording her every word. He suggested that SHE needed couselling ...... hmmmmmmm. I think not!