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How can you get your wife to stop putting her mother first?

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November 25, 2008 8:30PM

This is the quest of almost every man. I think it's a curse. However, marriage is suppose to be based on trust, and open, honest, and direct communication. Both sides must bend. Sounds great right? Not easy. As soon as the word mother or mother-in-law comes up, emotions flare and those same emotions interfere with what's really being said. I don't have the answer, but I know that you need to approach her in a gentle and caring way, and attempt to reason with her. Again, not easy, buttons can be easily pushed. Try to remember that when there is a problem between a husband and a wife, it almost always comes from an outside source. In this case a mother. In scripture, it is written, "for this reason a women leaves her mother and father and cleaves unto her husband (paraphrased)." Sometimes I think the wife forgets about this issue and its purpose. Still, you must be gentle in your approach with her so she does not get defensive on the outset. I don't know what else to say except best wishes!

This is the quest of almost every man. I think it's a curse. However, marriage is suppose to be based on trust, and open, honest, and direct communication. Both sides must bend. Sounds great right? Not easy. As soon as the word mother or mother-in-law comes up, emotions flare and those same emotions interfere with what's really being said. I don't have the answer, but I know that you need to approach her in a gentle and caring way, and attempt to reason with her. Again, not easy, buttons can be easily pushed. Try to remember that when there is a problem between a husband and a wife, it almost always comes from an outside source. In this case a mother. In scripture, it is written, "for this reason a women leaves her mother and father and cleaves unto her husband (paraphrased)." Sometimes I think the wife forgets about this issue and its purpose. Still, you must be gentle in your approach with her so she does not get defensive on the outset. I don't know what else to say except best wishes!

This is the quest of almost every man. I think it's a curse. However, marriage is suppose to be based on trust, and open, honest, and direct communication. Both sides must bend. Sounds great right? Not easy. As soon as the word mother or mother-in-law comes up, emotions flare and those same emotions interfere with what's really being said. I don't have the answer, but I know that you need to approach her in a gentle and caring way, and attempt to reason with her. Again, not easy, buttons can be easily pushed. Try to remember that when there is a problem between a husband and a wife, it almost always comes from an outside source. In this case a mother. In scripture, it is written, "for this reason a women leaves her mother and father and cleaves unto her husband (paraphrased)." Sometimes I think the wife forgets about this issue and its purpose. Still, you must be gentle in your approach with her so she does not get defensive on the outset. I don't know what else to say except best wishes!

This is the quest of almost every man. I think it's a curse. However, marriage is suppose to be based on trust, and open, honest, and direct communication. Both sides must bend. Sounds great right? Not easy. As soon as the word mother or mother-in-law comes up, emotions flare and those same emotions interfere with what's really being said. I don't have the answer, but I know that you need to approach her in a gentle and caring way, and attempt to reason with her. Again, not easy, buttons can be easily pushed. Try to remember that when there is a problem between a husband and a wife, it almost always comes from an outside source. In this case a mother. In scripture, it is written, "for this reason a women leaves her mother and father and cleaves unto her husband (paraphrased)." Sometimes I think the wife forgets about this issue and its purpose. Still, you must be gentle in your approach with her so she does not get defensive on the outset. I don't know what else to say except best wishes!

This is the quest of almost every man. I think it's a curse. However, marriage is suppose to be based on trust, and open, honest, and direct communication. Both sides must bend. Sounds great right? Not easy. As soon as the word mother or mother-in-law comes up, emotions flare and those same emotions interfere with what's really being said. I don't have the answer, but I know that you need to approach her in a gentle and caring way, and attempt to reason with her. Again, not easy, buttons can be easily pushed. Try to remember that when there is a problem between a husband and a wife, it almost always comes from an outside source. In this case a mother. In scripture, it is written, "for this reason a women leaves her mother and father and cleaves unto her husband (paraphrased)." Sometimes I think the wife forgets about this issue and its purpose. Still, you must be gentle in your approach with her so she does not get defensive on the outset. I don't know what else to say except best wishes!

This is the quest of almost every man. I think it's a curse. However, marriage is suppose to be based on trust, and open, honest, and direct communication. Both sides must bend. Sounds great right? Not easy. As soon as the word mother or mother-in-law comes up, emotions flare and those same emotions interfere with what's really being said. I don't have the answer, but I know that you need to approach her in a gentle and caring way, and attempt to reason with her. Again, not easy, buttons can be easily pushed. Try to remember that when there is a problem between a husband and a wife, it almost always comes from an outside source. In this case a mother. In scripture, it is written, "for this reason a women leaves her mother and father and cleaves unto her husband (paraphrased)." Sometimes I think the wife forgets about this issue and its purpose. Still, you must be gentle in your approach with her so she does not get defensive on the outset. I don't know what else to say except best wishes!

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November 25, 2008 8:30PM

This is the quest of almost every man. I think it's a curse. However, marriage is suppose to be based on trust, and open, honest, and direct communication. Both sides must bend. Sounds great right? Not easy. As soon as the word mother or mother-in-law comes up, emotions flare and those same emotions interfere with what's really being said. I don't have the answer, but I know that you need to approach her in a gentle and caring way, and attempt to reason with her. Again, not easy, buttons can be easily pushed. Try to remember that when there is a problem between a husband and a wife, it almost always comes from an outside source. In this case a mother. In scripture, it is written, "for this reason a women leaves her mother and father and cleaves unto her husband (paraphrased)." Sometimes I think the wife forgets about this issue and its purpose. Still, you must be gentle in your approach with her so she does not get defensive on the outset. I don't know what else to say except best wishes!