How can you regain your former self-image and sense of personal confidence now that you have identified your husband's narcissistic behavior as the force that altered your personality?

I would normally tell you that you both need to see a psychiatrist, but I know your husband would refuse to go with you. To label him narcissistic is unfair. He could be just a pure creep! Until a professional labels him, then you can't base facts on what he is, but you can take the facts of the way he has treated you and leave. I know I make it sound easy when I tell you that you should leave him. I know it isn't easy because I left my first husband. Still, I would rather leave, take my chance out in the world on my own, than have my personality, dignity and self confidence stripped from me. We are in total control of what we wish to be as a human being and we can't blame someone else! Once I left my ex husband I found out what I was about and just how strong I really was. I did date, but no one seriously for at least a couple of years. I am much stronger now because I know I never needed a man in my life, so when I met and married my second husband I was most confident and he's a wonderful man even after 34 years of marriage. There are many wonderful programs out there for women that you can go to and Abused Women's Center or go to mental health and explain your circumstances and they will see you get the right programs. Little by little you will regain who you once were. Don't be so hard on yourself. We all make mistakes. If we don't know ourselves 100% we can't be expected to know another person 100%. Good luck hon Marcy
I would normally tell you that you both need to see a psychiatrist, but I know your husband would refuse to go with you. To label him narcissistic is unfair. He could be just a pure creep! Until a professional labels him, then you can't base facts on what he is, but you can take the facts of the way he has treated you and leave. I know I make it sound easy when I tell you that you should leave him. I know it isn't easy because I left my first husband. Still, I would rather leave, take my chance out in the world on my own, than have my personality, dignity and self confidence stripped from me. We are in total control of what we wish to be as a human being and we can't blame someone else! Once I left my ex husband I found out what I was about and just how strong I really was. I did date, but no one seriously for at least a couple of years. I am much stronger now because I know I never needed a man in my life, so when I met and married my second husband I was most confident and he's a wonderful man even after 34 years of marriage. There are many wonderful programs out there for women that you can go to and Abused Women's Center or go to mental health and explain your circumstances and they will see you get the right programs. Little by little you will regain who you once were. Don't be so hard on yourself. We all make mistakes. If we don't know ourselves 100% we can't be expected to know another person 100%. Good luck hon Marcy