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How can you tell if a friend or someone you love is in a controlling relationship?

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2005-09-19 22:37:55
2005-09-19 22:37:55

I think you already think your friend is in a controlling relationship. Don't forget, when you first meet someone you are in love with you drop your girlfriends or buddies like hot potatoes and only have eyes for that guy/girl, but then things come full circle and we start to branch out to our friends again. If this isn't the case, and you see these signs: Your friend is not allowed to have his/her friends over for an evening or at least not without their spouse there. Your friend can't go anywhere without her partner. Your friend can't go anywhere, period! Your friend's spouse always tries to answer the phone or dogs his/her emails. Your friend's spouse doesn't treat his/her friends with respect if they deserve it. Your friend is kept on a tight leash and kept at home, controlled, can't have any freedom and has to answer to his/her spouse constantly. Save your breath if you feel your friend is controlled. They most likely will turn on you. Deep within themselves they know the relationship is not normal, but they are in a mode of denial and like grieving, they have to come to their own terms about their way of life and change it on their own. You could mention it, but don't be surprised if your friend gets angry with you. The best you can do is remain friends, be there when and if they need you and continue on. Keep an eye out for bruises, black eyes, etc. Other than that there is not a thing you can do with the exception of putting your friendship at risk. Good luck Marcy

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