What should you do if you have a crush on your coach?

Answer 1

It's perfectly normal to have a crush on one or more of your college professors. I had an uber-crush on my choir director in community college. For a 40-something-year-old, she drove a lot of the younger guys bonkers. Light brown hair, bright blue eyes, and a body that would drive a prepubescent boy wild, let alone a college guy. She actually thrived off of this attention, another Jennifer Coolidge, if you will.

Here's the deal. Some professors reciprocate the crush, but are bound by code-of-coduct and other regulations, not to pursue a relationship with their pupil. The biggest reason is that some professors are corrupt and would use you for sex and fail you if you fail to please them.

I would develop a friendship with your instructor and let your time in his/her class pass and if you still feel the same way at the end of the semester, then be honest about your feelings. More than likely, they probably won't want to jeopardize your friendship and will want to get to know you more.

Short answer: They just want to be friends.

Answer

KEEP IT TOTALLY PROFESSIONAL. A CRUSH CAN CRUSH YOU. YOUR AT SCHOOL TO GET AN EDUCATION AND BETTER YOUR LIFE WHY JEOPARDIZE THAT FOR ANY REASON. RELATIONSHIPS COME AND GO BUT A GOOD EDUCATION WILL STAY WITH YOU FOREVER. STEER CLEAR AND KEEP YOUR HEAD IN THE BOOKS.

AnswerJust have fun with it without being too obvious. If he likes you back and is available, think of something creative and witty to follow up with him about regarding the material or something he mentioned during class. Wait until the semester is over though. AnswerIf the crush/attraction is 1-sided (i.e. you like the prof. but the feelings aren't returned),

Try not to let the professor know that you like him/her. Believe me, it will cause embarrassment and discomfort for you (and possible him/her too). If he/she IS aware of your crush, avoid him/her if possible OR act like you're totally 'over' him/her (i.e. be polite but matter of fact, keep things brief, act disinterested, etc.) and try to promote rumors that you are seriously involved with somebody else now (whether true or not).

If the crush/attraction is "mutual",

First, off, at best your prof. probably wants to roll in the hay with you (no strings). It is highly unlikely that he/she feels about you the same way as you feel about him her, and even if he/she does have feelings for you, it is doubtful that he/she respects and values you enough to jeopardize his/her career over you (sorry, the truth does hurt but you need to hear it). Seriously, think about it, would you want to risk 8+ years of college, several years doing post-docs, and even more time invested in getting tenure to date somebody who a) probably is too young to identify with your life experiences/understand you, b) is probably too unlearned relative to you to keep you intellectually stimulated, and c) who would be viewed as inappropriate for you by your peers (well, for anything long term, at least)?

Here's what you do, ignore the prof. and his/her attempts to seduce you. If he/she gets bold and starts touching you or trying to get you alone outside of class (e.g. let's work on a lab together after class, go to the campus art show together, planetarium, campus food court/pub, etc.) tell the prof. either directly (or anonymously) if you don't have the guts/fear retaliation that you aren't interested (even if you are), have a significant others, etc. (i.e. make up an excuse as to why you can't hook up). If the jackass still doesn't get it, mention the words, 'sexual harassment' to him/her. Finally, if all else fails, go to your school's administrators and/or Title IX officer. If they don't help you, lawyer up, baby. Don't sign anything which says that a) the harassment that has been happening didn't actually happen or b) anything that waives your right to take civil actions. Hopefully you're school is cool, will get your some counseling help, speak with (or if warranted suspend/fire) the professor, and handle stuff responsibly, but if they don't handle things right, don't give up. Some schools are lame and hope that if they ignore the problem or humiliate you into silence that they'll be able spare themselves embarrassment i.e. keep their names out of the paper/local news due to the sexual harassment incident; this is really dumb cause it will just cause them more embarrassment in the long run.

Answer 2

If she or he has "found out", I assume that you may not have wanted them to find out. So, I think you should deny it completely. Especially because it'd be viewed as "inappropriate" by most people around you (especially if the teacher is super hot/older than you/ or otherwise engaged).

Or, you could... well, make fun of it yourself and just tell the teacher upfront that you really like him or her and you find them very attractive. This honesty will gain their respect and... well, that's the most you'll get, I think. :)

Good luck. Ha, ha.

Answer 3

first of all how old r u and u r teacher ?

Answer 4

Nothing. You could damage this person's marriage and professional life. He/she could go to prison, loose a their job. Keep this to yourself and find someone you can actually date.