How do you chose between two people you love?

Answer 1

If you can't decide then you don't love either because when your in love with someone there is no one else so you're not in love, you're in lust. Being in love is not a two way tie. Either you love one of them or you don't.

AnswerI once read that to work out whether you should marry someone you should imagine life WITHOUT them in 20 years time. I think this would apply here.

Not which can you live with, but which can't you live without?

AnswerYou don't love these men. You are looking out for only yourself and what best suits you even if it hurts others, that is not love. I think you would be doing both these men a huge favour by letting them go, so they can move onto nice women who will be there for them in every way. You sound insecure and I think perhaps you need to focus on getting healthy then you will treat others well. AnswerGo on history. I have the same dillema. It is not about you not being emotionally healthy or not. If you trully hold each one in your heart, and they hold you in theirs, then it can be a difficult choice. Overall however, there has to be just one. The one that makes butterflies come even after its been so long. The one that brings a smile to your face every time anything about them is mentioned or seen. The one that you simply cant imagine losing completely. I think the above suggestion is right. Which one can't you live without? If they love you they will wait. There a budhist saying I heard a while back - "If you love something, let it go free. If it doesn't come back, you never had it. If it does, love it forever." Whichever guy you choose, stick to him, for all its worth.

Answer 2

You can't be in love with two people you can love one and be in love with the other. The heart is not designed that way

The above answer is correct. There isn't a specific way to choose one or the other. Choose the one who you have the best friendship with, and who you care about the most. Make sure you decide with both logic and emotion, not one or the other.

Someone is in turmoil if they have had to ask this question-I feel for you. What is that saying 'nip it in the bud?'...but where do we learn the art of spotting that bud? Do we walk around blinkered, eyes down, for fear of communicating with someone and starting something we 'shouldn't'? Sorry, I digress... Why are you asking this question now, do you need to make the choice today? Don't get me wrong, no-one would choose to be in this position, it is not good for anyone concerned, but you are and carrying out your decision will be difficult hence the need to be as strong as you can. When you do decide, you will need to be feeling positive and determined to succeed.

"How to choose?"....Doubtful anyone can really answer this but I have learnt a method that may help, this has also helped when dealing with a monogamous relationship that's going through tough times and that is to ask yourself "Who can I live without?" (or in the case of the monogamous relationship "do I want to be without this person, what if they left?") As you can see, this is as opposed to "who do I want?", as the nature of the question indicates that you want both partners. Therefore, try to imagine life without one and then the other (considering all that they bring to the relationship) and then maybe you will find you can imagine letting one go a little more easily than the other? I wish you well...

Answer 3

i believe that if you love two men that maybe you're the one that needs to let go of both of them. Loving more than one man only leaves you confused and stressed. I believe that if you cant let one of them go, let the one go that cant meet your every need or desire. Let the one go that you know cant provide for you the way you want to be provided for. You'll know who loves you or who dont love you. And if you're still in a hole...ask God.

AnswerIt's not possible to love two men at once in my opinion... there's always one it would hurt more to lose than the other... think about it... then decide.

Or you can have an open relationship where you can date both men.

Answer 4

Choosing between two peopleMake a list of pros and cons and compare, well actually, before you do that, get to know those people better.

Answer 5

That's a really hard question to answer. I guess I would tell you to choose the person who makes you happier, the person you can imagine being in your life until you die. you just. think about which person means more to you, I guess.

Answer

You must first determine if what you feel for these two individuals is truly LOVE or mere infatuation.

You must identify the qualities of both individuals, which demonstrate their strongest characteristics. You must also identify their best and worst characteristics. Then determine for how many years you can tolerate the worst characteristic becoming more intolerable as the passion you now feel, wears off.

Answer

Pick who you liked first!

Answer 6

by his affection, you must pick the guy who likely want to be with you the more than other.

by his affection, you must pick the guy who likely want to be with you the more than other.

Answer 7

you find out which one u like more. and if you cant ask them which one likes u more

Answer 8

Go with the one you've known the longest. They should have more trust and so should you.