How do you cope if you are married but still have feelings for your ex after 5 years apart?

You accept that it wasn't to be, that you live now with a longing for someone who has changed, as you have. You are not the same people. You live for the memories of someone, something, that no longer exists. You accept that it's over, finished. Life lies ahead.

If that man wanted you, I mean truly, deeply and unconditionally as your husband does now, he WOULD be with you now. I'm going to be harsh here for a reason- Nothing would have kept him away when he found out that you were seeing another man, NOTHING, nothing would have kept him away when he found out that you were getting married, he would have turned up at the ceremony and screamed out NOOOO!!! But he didnt, did he? He never came.

You have to let go of the fantasy. And let go of the hand that let you slip away. Reach out instead for the hand that holds you now and never wants to let you go.