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How do you get narcissist to leave you alone after he dumps you then comes back over and over and is this a common trait of narcissists?

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2005-12-11 03:57:22
2005-12-11 03:57:22

The narcissist is looking for attention and whatever else you can give him. You need to show no interest, no emotion, nothing. Don't show anger or sadness or even listen to them. Don't pick up the phone. Don't answer the door if its them. Ignore them. They'll eventually go away when they realize you have nothing for them. And they'll move on to their next victim.

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