Can you win an ex-boyfriend back from long distance?

Answer 1

If its possible, move closer to them. This shows that you are willing to sacrifice your own lifestyle for them but try to leave it open to whether you return to your home or not, so if it didnt work out, you wouldn't be left looking like a prat! Take a trial run in their area, and see what happens!

I don't think that moving closer to an ex is neccesarily the right idea. Why did you guys break up in the first place? Was it the distance that was too hard? If so, perhaps your relationship just wasn't as strong as you think and you need to face the fact that it wasn't grounded as completely as you thought. If it was jealousy, then those issues need to be addressed rather than the distance itself. I'm not saying that proximity doesn't make things easier, I just think that if a relationship can't withstand miles then maybe it can't withstand a lot of things and you need to reevaluate the strength of what compels you to be together. If you, yourself, feel ready to sacrafice your geography for the sake of another, please please be sure that your partner does to. Don't rearrange your life for someone who wouldn't do the same for you, because then you leave yourself behind for them. Have a conversation about the distance first, about the relocation first...and make sure that the distance taking its toll on your relationship isn't an indication of another, less obvious but perhaps more damaging, strain on you two.

Ansend letters. That always works for me. but seriously if the strings aren't treading then get over it. If you can't seem to let them go, then do something about it. conversation is the key.

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I would not make a move closer unless things were better. It could appear as stalking, or aggressive and then what would you have? Maybe email once a week light letters about what is going on with your life (and live your life), if it is ment to be the Ex might be prompted to want to re-enter your life. Try to havwe zero expectations of them and don't add guilt or sorrow make yourself someone they Want to be with. Hope this helps.

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It's hard having a long distance thing, believe me i know. If you can't do anything to make it work, move on.

well i went to see this guy that i was talking to for about a year and a half,on Skype gmail sending pictures he also he was living his girlfriend he got in trouble i helped him to find an apartment 9me in h|olland he in Oklahoma usa we talked daily for hours he was really faithfull and begged me to go he wanted me needed me was madly in love with me he told me all his history of being abused as a child we were real friends i was teaching him Dutch was more envolved then only love and fysical atraction ! he sent me videos i sent him videos we were really close! the diasaster strikes he got acused of something very bad and had to leave his house directly and go to court .i stood by him talkink on the phone daily i did what i could.he was declared innocent,his life went on but now he was living alone! this was in April and ha said he couldn't live without me anymore,i told him if he was sure he said yes,i told him he neede sometime alone and that i would go in October and we went on talking ,getting in contact everyday as always !in october when i got there to spend 3 months with him 10 hours after i got there he said he wasnt atracted to me,and that our relationship was over.but before this happenned we had sex 2 times and i noticed something was wrong with him.so i asked should i go back to Europe then he said no,we could still be good friends he wanted me to stay ,i did.then he changed completely he ignored me went gaming on the PC when he got home from work and left me there,once in awhile he would stop and make aconversation and then back!i wanted to lkeave i was devasted and confused but i got the flu had fever etc...everytime i wanted to leave he would tell me see you don't get what you want so you leave.........and i stayed also because i wanted to stay in contact with him i loved him i was sad confused and ashamed o go back so soon!istayed 2 months he started telling me if i left he would never talk to me again.......then he started watching porn,flirting when we went to do groceries and direct look at me to see my reaction.........he never hugged me and if i did touch me he said don't do that friends do dothat with each other...........i know now i did let him do this to me....my self esteem is gone i am depressed sad afraid of trusting people again and he wont call me or emailme ! he did 2 times sent me an email saying he didnt want to start conversations with me again but he wanted to know how iwas and he was thinking about me!i sent him one email back and he said he wont nothing to do with me anymore! it has been a yer ago and now he was on skype and told me that he had a new girl and she was just like me only better! then he told me no maybe he was talking to a man and that he could be gay,and now he said was a joke and with that girl was over and that he still don't want anything to do with me........i know i should hate him and i do but i am still not over it is very humiliating what i have been trough and i wanted to help him he works very hard low salary and 3 kids.........he havent any friends he is totally isolated! i know i have to think about myself.....but i still worry about him.........maybe i don't deserve better please don't move out let him go to you!

Answer 2

Recently my girlfriend broke up with me for her ex from two years ago. I tried to just let her go, but she still wants to talk to me. And, I don't want to let her go, I want to win her back. The guy is a jerk I can already tell. She tells me to call her and if he's not there it's fine and we talk, but if he is there he answers her phone an tells me not to call back. He knew I was her boyfriend and yet he kept going after her. She is the love of my life and I am so lost without her. She says it's over, but she says little things that lead me to believe otherwise. I asked her if she still loved me and she said "Yes, but I can't say that to you anymore." And, she says she still wants me to send her the letters I've written her, love letters. She works hard to make sure we stay in touch, but I just don't understand it. She is the woman who has made me a better man just for loving her. She always put a smile on my face when I never thought I could have a smile on my face. Before I met her I didn't know I could ever love someone so much. Before I met her I didn't know what I wanted and my heart was lost. When we met it was a romance that snowballed up until about a month ago. Then she stopped talking to me all of the sudden. Then I tried to call her about a week ago and she answered and told me what happened. She's 2000 miles away so I can't just go up to her and kiss her and tell her how I truly feel. I never knew I loved her so much until she was gone. What do I do? well i think you need to respect yourself. she will ruin your life. you can not play with someone else woman. she is creating a triangle and she wants to have plan b. do you want to be plan b?

Answer 3

I strongly disagree with the last answer. It all depends on the how much you love that person. And how much he loves you. If you both have strong feelings for each other then there is a chance you will workout. And good luck getting him back! Long distance relationships seldom work out and those that do are a very low percentage.  There is no real relationship when you can't touch or look at a person or go out on dates.  You can't expect to have a relationship without getting to know each other more than just chatting over email, IMing or the odd phone call.  I think your chances of getting your boyfriend back are slim.  It's time for you to look at your life and realize that going out and having fun until you meet that special guy is the good old fashion way and it works much better than long distance relationships.

Answer 4

The percentage is extremely low that long distance relationships work out. A few do, but a very few. Humans need to touch each other and see each other, and if the distance and time is too great between the two, one or both of the people in the relationship gets lonely and usually meets someone that lives in the same city of town as they do. It's best to move on, start dating hopefully find that special someone you deserve and lives in the same place you do. There are far more women in this world than men, so you have a high percentage of finding just the right girl. If you aren't happy to give her up, then the only other choice you have is to go visit her, but be warned, she may well have another boyfriend. Marcy

Answer 5

you can call him and tell him how you feel. it depends tho, if hes just traveling or if you moved or he did. but it could be possible. or just ask him out- get right to hthe pointt!

Answer 6

Try not to make them mad again it will be over. It is very hard but possible if you are very devoted and keep in contact.

Answer 7

Save yourself the time and don't.

Answer 8

have a short distance relationship