What should you do if your girlfriend admitted she still misses her ex?

Answer 1

She's being honest with you and you have to give her that even though it hurts you. You have to sit down by yourself and go through this problem step-by-step. First off when you go with someone the two of you make wonderful memories together before the problems enter into the picture. When things go wrong and one or the other splits up with their mate it leaves the one that is still in love with the other with a feeling of grief. It's a grief of losing someone special in your life and grief has no time limit so I can't tell you she is going to get over this guy in a few weeks, month or even a year. It simply takes patience and time. You should sit down with her and let her know that perhaps the two of you should separate until she has had time to clear her head and see which way she wants her life to go. Let her know in no uncertain terms that you aren't willing to sit around and be second best while she is always thinking about her ex. Absence often does make the heart grow fonder, so with you out of the picture it will force her to start thinking and she may just come to realize you are indeed more important in her life than her ex is. Don't sit around taking this sort of behavior as it's not fair to you. At the present time you are enabling her behavior (even though she is grieving) and you are simply going to have to take the risk that if you separate she'll either come back to you or go back to her boyfriend. Either way you win! ask her if she has considered going back to him...if she would..dump her..if not, work things out

Answer 2

Simply put, "Run while you can". I've been in that situation and it isn't a pleasant one. If she still loves him, she will not begin to start loving you the way you deserve to be loved. Why cheat yourself and why be second to anyonelse? Run my friend, top speed...

Signed,

Dr. K-

I am sorry to hear this and the other posters are right. Better to get on with your life.

People that split up, there is always one that feels it was a mistake and wanted to rekindle the relationship, but the other person has moved on. It hurts. Just because it didn't work doesn't mean you did anything wrong.

The old standard "Fools rush in" is so true. Don't be so quick to run back to her, or find someone else to take her place. Each person we come in contact with we can learn good/bad things from. The good teaches us many things such a to be tolerant of others, learning how to love with an open heart, how to smile or tackle problems and the bad teaches you what you don't want out of life. Take the time to ponder what you could have done differently with your relationship with her or what type of girl you don't want to get mixed up with. One of the hardest things to do is look inside oneself and be brutally honest. None of us are perfect and we can all make mistakes. Perhaps she needed more affection, or perhaps the chemistry just wasn't right between you.

Take some time out and get to know yourself. Have fun with your friends and the right girl will come along.

Good luck Marcy

RECENTLY WE HAVEN'T SPOKEN ONLY BECAUSE HER EX HAS BEEN VISITING AND I RESPECT THAT BUT NOW THE EX IS PUT ON THE BACK BURNER AND SHE'S CALLING ME AND CONSTANTLY TALKING ABOUT OUT INTIMATE TIMES. HOW CAN I TELL IF SHE WANTS MORE OUT OF ME THAN SEX.

Answer 3

(All advice is generic and incomplete of necessity. Apply as fits, and use your own brains.)
= Answer = You should probably let it slide or just learn to live with it because if you tell your gf pretty much to just forget her ex bf thn she is not going to happy. If she talks about her ex it doesn't necessarily mean she still has a thing for him, trust me on this one, often when your in a new relationship you talk about old bf's/gf's because they are part of your past, apart of your memories and when your in a relationship you discuss these things and both parties should be able to come to terms with that. however if your gf is majorly obsessing about him and he is all she talks about and they spend a lot of time together I think you should sit her down and ask her if she still has feelings for him because in that case she probably does. if she was with the ex bf for a long time it's very hard for a girl to let go of the memories and put it all behind us so she could quite easily be experiencing that. Even though I don't think you should panic just yet, just talk to her and also try to accept the ex, imagine if you were in your gf's shoes. Good luck. = Answer =
Since she refuses, I assume you've already argued with her about this,
and she doesn't agree that she should.
(otherwise rephrase question to?"..when your girlfriend can't let go.. " or "..has trouble letting go..")
So why does she refuse? Possible reasons:
A) They're still good friends.
? ? This shouldn't bother you, of course. But if it does nonetheless, find out why
? ? (honesty to yourself is important here) and tell her.
? ? If you both can't manage to find a solution for your worries/annoyance/whatever
? ? she should either give up her friendship or you should bear up,
? ? depending on how important the friendship is to her and on how much it bothers you.
B) She left him and feels bad about it.
? ?Well, this means she's a conscientous and sympathetic girl,
? ? which is probably one of the reasons you love her.
? ? However, it may be that she's not doing her ex any favor by "not letting go",
? ? since she thus prevents him from looking seriously for a new relationship.
? ? You might try to assimilate her feelings; imagine she'd leave you - wouldn't you want to keep in touch?
C) She has unresolved emotional issues with her ex (anger)
? ? in which case you could either help her resolve her issues
? ? or make her forget about him.
D) ?

Answer 4

You can tell if she still has feelings for her ex if she often talks about him to you or friends. Also if she gets a text, you ask who its from and she says "no one".

Hope this helped you and your relationship! :-D

Answer 5

Ask your wife if everything is okay. If she confesses that she's still in love with her ex then have a talk with her about how you feel about that. And if you can't take it anymore you should have a divorce. =/

Answer 6

You can't make anyone stop loving another person no matter how hard you try.