How do you get over someone you love after they cheated on you?

Answer 1

You have to reconcile yourself to the fact that the person you loved disregarded your love, trust and respect when he decided to have an affair. He didn't feel obligated to stay faithful to you, or at least be decent enough to end the relationship with you before he went to someone else.

You feel terrible about what has happened, but you need to focus on your life. Spend time with your family and friends. Take up a hobby or start doing the activities you wanted to but your ex was never intersted in. It may take awhile, but you will start feeling better about what happened.

really this is something that takes time and not something you can just move on from lie that.men seem to move on very quicly because they are the ones that have something lined up..and woman are more into there feelings .. so really i have taken it apoun myself that i need to just keep myself busy but really when the day is over you reallt think about what happend so really what do you do. its hard cause why should you keep your self busy??you should be able to deal with this situation head on and get threw it and move on but really im lost in what to do its really hard..please replie with how you feel what i should do.

I had been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and just yesterday, my world crashed down on me when I found out that he had cheated on me with a girl he met at work. I spoke with her over the phone and she had confirmed this, saying he never mentioned to her that he had a girlfriend. I was absolutely devasted and this still has not even reached the 24-hour mark. It is even more difficult because he is constantly calling me, being very apologetic. And stupid me, I do talk to him, maybe because I am still so confused and really want the closure. As far as dealing with this, I agree with trying to make yourself busy. Go to the beach, go out with the girls, go to the gym and work on that tight body, anything that will build back your self-esteem, because no matter what, most girls begin questioning themselves on "what did I do?" This is no one's fault but his. His love and dedication was obviously not strong enough for him to keep from taking the steps to pursuing something else with someone else. If you take him back, he will know he can do this again.

It's the same story --- My world just collapsed. We just ended up my 6-1/2 years of marriage. I'm good as a dead person right now. Meaning, No life. My soon to be ex-husband would rather spend his new life with a 21 yrs old Nursing student, whom he just met online 7 months ago. Now, I just found out that they are currently engaged and hunting for a new apartment to live. My 26 yrs old husband begged me not to say to her new fiance that he is a married man. After few minutes, I called and confronted the girl and told her honestly that she is currently in love with my husband. She can't help it but cry.(First bf/fiance). It is way too hard to create a new life again, esp if everything is doing well and suddenly, the love of your life told you that he would rather spend his life with another young girl. Now, my soon to be ex-husband txt message me and said "You ruin my life!" --I text him back saying "You ruin my life as well! I will ruin yours too!" -- I feel weak as of this moment, tears won't stop dripping my laptop. My brain was flooded with full of question marks(???) What I have done wrong? Am I not that good for him? Did I not loved him enough? I just turned my thinkable thoughts to prayers. Please help us GOD -- me and other broken-hearted females who are currently suffering from sever lost of our ex-loved ones. Please help us forgive them and help us to move on our lives.

Answer 2

Do you have any love for yourself? You are going to have to make a decision to stop hurting yourself first. If its over and it seems from your question that it is over please stop beating yourself up asking why you are not good enough. Dont hop into any kind of relationship right away but take a good look at your life. Find the things you love about you I know its hard but you must move on. Keep growing if possible take a class work out. Dont decide that this is it YOU WILL LOVE AGAIN! give yourself time to heal dont beg him back or do things to manipulate him. There is somebody for everyone including you.

Answer 3

No matter what it's going to affect you in a negative way. The best advice is to surround yourself constantly with friends/family and keep yourself busy. Time will be your best friend and as it goes by it will slowly but surely heal you. Keep telling yourself you deserve better and never even consider taking that person back unless you want cheated on again. Once a cheater always a cheater. I've experienced this 3 weeks ago so I'm going through the same thing.

Answer 4

This is a really hard. The only way I found was to replace him\her with someone else. If you stop talking to the person for awhile you will end up forgetting them. Now that a deep breath and remember... Every breath you take shows you can live without him :)

Answer

It depends on the circumstances. If you really love that person and there is a chance you can be together I would not give up. If that person does not return your love I would move on.

Answer 5

It's called forgiveness, But then you have cheated on him/her too, by the mind desire of having seen anyone else, and wishing you could make love, have sex,with them. Isn't that cheatting too? It's called forgiveness, But then you have cheated on him/her too, by the mind desire of having seen anyone else, and wishing you could make love, have sex,with them. Isn't that cheatting too?

Answer 6

well if they have moved on so should you leave the past behind and concerntrate on the future! if you still love them and they dont love you, then get over it and move on in life one day you will look back on them and think why did it take me so long to get over him/her i was being silly! so therefore if you want to move on move on or if not well be miserable!(sorry its harsh but you will get over it babe!) good luck

Answer 7

if you know that then why dont you get someone else that really likes you that would never cheat on you