How do you stop fornication and adultery as a pastor and a married man?

Answer 1

First, you'll need to end the relationship with the person you're committing adultery with. This won't be easy. However, Adultery is forbidden in The Bible: Romans 13:9--"For the [law code], "You must not commit adultery". In teaching Bible principles, Jesus raised the moral standard still higher for Christians.

1Corinthians 6:9-11--"What! Do YOU not know that unrighteous persons will not inherit God's kingdom? Do not be misled. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men kept for unnatural purposes, nor men who lie with men, nor thieves, nor greedy persons, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit God's kingdom. And yet that is what some of YOU were. But YOU have been washed clean, but YOU have been sanctified, but YOU have been declared righteous in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ and with the spirit of our God". Look these scriptures up for yourself, in your Bible. Don't accept an answer to a Bible question if the person can't show chapter and verse.

To be able to finally resist adultery, you'll need to study the Bible with persons who do not allow the permissiveness of today standards to loosen their precious standing with God. These Bible students do not follow the long-held traditions of persons who don't consider God's word up-to-date for the 21st Century. When you come to know and appreciate what God, as our Creator, requires of us, you'll want to please Him and follow His standards.

When I started studying the Bible with Jehovah's Witnesses in 1978, I was an adulteress. However, I took advantage of the forgiveness through Jesus Christ's shed blood and I have not committed adultery since.

Answer 2

Inappropriate thoughts will always bombard our minds. Its when you follow those thoughts through in action that it becomes sin. You must always be one step ahead, knowing as soon as the thought rears its ugly head, that you can appropriately deal with it. Personally, it takes persistent prayer. Also, when a person accepts Jesus Christ as their personal Lord and saviour they receive the indwelling Holy Spirit who has power to help gain the victory over sin. Thus, while the will is important in wanting to resist sin, the New Testament recognizes that people are unable solely by themselves to gain the victory, hence the need for 'the comforter.' Often the problem may be in this sin as in any other that the person concerned actually likes the sin, however it is played out, and so they need help to see how abhorrant sin is to a Holy and righteous God, who created one man for one woman for life 'in the beginning'. This was not just how God made the human race to operate then but was His plan for all time and any departure from how man is meant to operate only brings destructive results.

Answer 3

Generally when a person cheats on their partner it's because they are unhappy in the relationship. It appears in today's world that it's easier to cheat than to make an effort to communicate one's concerns to their partner to try and mend the marriage. It's advisable that you seek psychological counseling so you can stop the cheating and get to the reality of the problem as to why you do. The fact you want to stop is a good start. Don't be embarrassed when meeting with your psychologist because they've dealt with these problems many times before. Be honest about your feelings and what is going on with your marriage and if you want to save your marriage then follow the learning tools your psychologist will give you. First you have to heal yourself.

Answer 4

You can't. This is something she alone can do, if she wants to. You can only keep being the man she married, don't get angry, and show her you love her and accept her no matter what. If you do, that is; if your motives are simply about possession, get out of the marriage.

Answer 5

Quite often, people who are insecure or have low self esteem have affairs in an attempt to feel loved or accepted. But before you can expect someone else to love or respect you, first you have to love and respect your self. And you also have to realize that sex does NOT equal love; they are two entirely different things. If there is no love involved, then it is just sex. But if both people realy love each other, it is making love, which can be a beautiful, personal, intimate, satisfying and emotional experience for both partners. Never demean yourself by having casual affairs; you will only get hurt, and it puts you in the dangerous situation of possibly contracting serious diseases.

Answer 6

You hold the power within yourself and by putting up with your husband's behavior you are enabling the situation. Often the wife fears that if she confronts her husband or backs him into a corner he will leave. Yes, in some cases he may, but sometimes confronting the husband will give him reason to leave the other woman. It's a risk, but women should be strong in this case and not be enablers. Communicate to your husband that you are not putting up with his extra marital affair. If he refuses then it would be wise for you to seek legal counsel.

Answer 7

If you are a pastor then the first thing you must do is to resign you cannot be a pastor and live your life in disobedience to God - you are living a lie.

God's word says:

1John 1:9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

So you must confess your sin and ask God to forgive you and cleanse you.

If you are a Christian then you will have God's Spirit indwelling you. Having God's Spirit means you have a choice, you don't have to obey your sin nature you can choose to obey the Spirit as He leads you. This is the day by day battle of every Christian. Read Romans chapter 8.

In short you stop fornicationand adultary by walking in the spirit, obeying God's Spirit as He leads and guides you rather than walking in the flesh, obeying your sin nature:

Galatians 5:16 I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.

Galatians 5:17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish.

You should spend time reading God's word everyday. God's word is valuable for "reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness". God's word is "living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart."

It is good to remember John chapter 15:

John 15:5 "I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.

John 15:6 If anyone does not abide in Me, he is cast out as a branch and is withered; and they gather them and throw them into the fire, and they are burned.

God disciplines His children and if a Christian lives a life of habitual sin they will face God's discipline.

Answer 8

You can save your marriage in many ways. Take him for dates, have intercourse etc. This will make him fall for you again.