Asked in NarcissismAbusive Relationships and Domestic Violence
How do you tell him he's a narcissist?
November 22, 2009 7:00PM
You can't!!! You can't tell him that he is a narcissist, because a narcissist is unable to define his own faults, much less try to fix them. I am in the process of leaving my 6 year relationship with a narcissist because he just drained the life out of me. 6 years and I finally was able to put a finger on what his problem was. I just learned this now.
Amen Sister! He will not admit any wrong doing on his part. The
blame will aways go on you or another. They see themselves as
perfect. Gorgeous, available ( even if married) They are
opportunists. They manipulate EVERYONE and thing. They have affairs
due to the sexual attention and the Madonna/Whore Syndrome. They
want everything they cannot have. Someone playing hard to get is an
obvious target. They feel the need, desire to conquer that
woman/person. They cannot love you. It is all an act. They suck you
in, and when they think they have captured you, then you become a
burden and a bore, and they must move on to the next captivating
victim. They NEED you at home for secondary attention. They need
constant adoration. The world cannot contribute that to them all of
the time. So, they need a significant other to fulfill that void.
(When the World is to busy for them) We, as a wife, only serve a
purpose to them. When we fall in love with them in he beginning, it
is all an act. When they think you are trapped in their love, then
they do not see you as a sexual being. That is where the
Madonna/Whore Syndrome comes in to play. They feel the urge to
chase the sex, and you are now the nice, caring being (not sexual)
the Madonna. You will be hurt so much with the constant affairs and
abuse. These people DO NOT CARE about NO ONE but THEMSELVES! You,
or NO one else will ever change them because they don't think that
they are doing anything wrong. They think that they are owed
happiness, self-satisfaction. The "Feel Good" concept. That is ALL
they care about. They hate rejection ...It's like, HOW dare you not
give ME what I WANT? They always have to be the loudest, center of
any gathering and attention. "People person" (so they can flirt
with every woman), Life of the party! They act like they deserve a
fan club. Sorry for being so long winded with this. I had to get it
out of my system. I am just getting through this with my husband
now. It is hard, and I have a long way to go to retrieve my lost,
everything! He has drained me in every way possible. But, I love
God, and asked him to reveal everything to me, and that I knew how
painful that this would be. I needed to save the rest of my future.
I have wasted 9 years on him. Now it's MY turn to live...
To finally breath again... God Bless ... Regina firstname.lastname@example.org