that's very sad. marriage is forever.
before you make the decision that could possibly ruin your children and potentially your wife as well---truly think about it please.AnswerI agree with the above poster. If you read this board you will see many examples of people thinking the grass is greener on the other side when it turned out not to be true and when they realized they had made a mistake it was too late!
Marriage is difficult at times with financial worries, two people living in the same house and then along come children. Often children take up much of the wife's attention and it's a pure balancing act for her to attend to the children and give you attention as well. If a man is smart he will help his wife with the chores around the house, take the kids to school, doctors appointments, etc., as well and thus, it makes time for the couple. Also taking time out for the both of you and getting a baby-sitter and doing something with friends or just going out for a romantic dinner can work. Go on a mini holiday on a weekend and get away from the children. It's important a couple touches base with each other whether they have children or not.
If you are 40 plus, then you could well be going into "Andropause" which use to be called "Mid-life Crisis." Women go thru premenopause (become edgy, cranky, cry for no reason, feel lethargic and have hot flashes.) Men go through similar symptoms during Andropause. Both men and women often will reflect on their lives around this time and usually feel they haven't accomplished what they want. There seems to be a need in each of us that we want to fill and sometimes we don't know what direction to go in.
You stand a chance of losing the most precious things in your life ... wife and children. Without trying the best you can and sitting down and communicating with you wife (don't tell her you've fallen out of love with her) then you didn't take your marriage vows very seriously. If this involves a younger woman (not accusing you) then my friend, you are in for a rude awakening. Many young women are extremely independent and by the way ... don't do windows or cook! You may think this is a nice change of pace, but a man can get very tired of this way of life. Smart women make their men think they are still running the home.
It's your choice!AnswerThe feeling of falling in love is just a feeling. It comes and goes in all relationships. Real love comes after the magic fades, the smoke clears and the fantasy is shattered by reality. Real love is a decision and a commitment to do everything in your power to put someone else's needs above your own. The satisfaction you will gain from giving this kind of love will return a thousand times greater feelings beyond initial falling in love feelings. It is the difference between the candy you liked as a child that was too sweet and lacked complexity and the dessert your mouth waters for when painstakingly prepared with care. If you continue to chase after the initial thrill, you will never gain the greatest joy of being part of something bigger than yourself.
If you know beyond a doubt that you don't love your wife, and if you know counseling, nor anything else will help, then you need to tell her. For one thing, it is not fair to your wife to allow her to continue thinking she is in a marriage with a man who loves her. Also, if you truly don't love your wife, your children will pick up on the fact that something is off, but they may be confused because they won't really know what. And, since children have a way of thinking things are their fault, they may think they have done something wrong.
Children have a way of picking up on things like that, and they will detect an unhappiness in the home. This could result in them feeling insecure, which I'm sure you would not want for them. Having no marriage is far better for children than living in the middle of a bad one.
Also, a happy parent is a better parent, and it would not be selfish of you in the least to tell your wife you no longer love her. You owe it to her, to yourself, and your children to try to save the marriage if you feel you can, but if not, then I do think you need to tell your wife the truth. Otherwise, your unhappiness may begin to manifest in different ways, creating an unhappy and insecure home for your children.
But if, and when, you do tell her you don't love her any longer, please, don't do anything to try to make the children choose sides - there should be NO sides in this. Your children need to be reassured that they will always have two parents who love them, and will always be there for them.
Too, if you have met and fallen in love with someone else, or if you do so soon after telling your wife, do not bring her into your childrens' lives for a bit, or they may blame her for your divorce, which could lead to resentment of her and result in them never accepting her. They will need time to adjust to the change in their lives.
Now, as to how to tell your wife you no longer love her, the best way is to just say it, but say it with kindness. Don't tell her it's her fault because she did or didn't do this or that, you have to remember this will hit her like a brick wall. She will need time to digest and try to understand what went wrong, and you owe it to her to tell her, but tell her in the kindest way possible.
After she recovers from the initial shock and pain, she may then become quite angry, which is normal. People can deal with anger much better than they can with pain, so try to understand if that's the route she takes. But don't let it affect you, your decision or your behavior. And above all, don't ever display your anger in front of the children. Your wife WILL recover, and she will eventually get on with her life.
Just realize you deserve happiness as much as anyone else does, and staying in a marriage where you no longer love your wife will not be doing your children the good you may think.
For more information, read the related link below, which will give you much more information on how to help your children with the divorce, as well as how to help make it easier on all concerned.
you can tell you have fallen in love because he/she is away on your mind you rember every word they said to you
he will say 'I love you'.
Only if your married to her, love. Unless you mean can you cause your mother to get a divorse with her spouse....but they try and tell children that its not their fault.
Gets a boner.
I suggest that you tell him, and see what he thinks about it.
trust me you can tell by the way he acts or sounds he/she would never want to do anything without you.
I would do it when it feels right to you and then just come out and say I've fallen in love with you
tell them he gave you herpes.
MY PARENTS went throught this same thing. however, they made up. he might feel the same way you do-did you ask him how he feels. --do this first and go from there.
Divorce is extremely difficult for the children in the family no matter what their ages. Sometimes parents just fall out of love with each other and decide it is best to separate or get a divorce because they no longer get along and it is not a healthy environment for the children in that particular family. Often the children (if young) blame themselves for their parents getting a divorce, but this is not true and has nothing to do with the children. If you would like to try to keep your parents together then ask if you can talk to both of them and tell them how you feel. Ask if they would consider a trial separation before getting a divorce. It's worth the chance they may rethink their actions. If not, children will get to visit with each parent off and on.
tell him the truth about you feelings and that'll do It is probably best to just move on.
Ask questions! Look for signs of interest! Try to make it a bit obvious to him that you've fallen in love with him. Tell him your like majorly in love with this one guy but you afraid to make a move. Then depending on his answer MAKE A MOVE!
speak to your friend tell her whats happened see hw she feels about this
tell him how you feel...... and Divorce him
If you trying to tell if he loves you, then just ask him, I personally have fallen in love with an online friend but i dont know how to tell her, if she were to just ask me, it would be so much easier for me to tell her.
You need to sit him down and tell him that you think you are really falling for him. Tell him how he makes you feel and why, start with this and the conversation just may take off.
I am not saying that you should divorce him but girl you need to do something about it. If you are in love with him and you don't want to leave him then fine but I believe that if a man says that to a women then he does not deserve her. You deserve better then him. If he is only in it for the children then you should talk about it with him.
what to do when a boy says i have fallenwow. if he says he has fallen for you it means that he is in love with you. So i guess that when he said that he must have real feelings for you. Answeryes, i agree with the previous answer, and the fact that he has had the confidence to come and tell you means he obviously feels it a lot. iv fallen for someone but i havent the confidence to tell her. if that's happened to you and you like the boy, then that's great, lucky you!
tou should tell children that when they are kind it will not only let others be kind to them but it will also help them to learn how to treat other children with love and respect.
You don't; if you love your husband just stop cheating; if you don't love you husband, tell him you don't love him and file for a divorce.
tell him how you truley feel.If he knew you liked him before then mayby he fell for you to!
Landon Pigg it is called "Falling In Love at a Coffee Shop."
you just tell them that although you know your just friends with benefits you think that you have fallen in love with then and that you can possibly become more than just friends with benefits..... and if they don't understand that you love tem by that time tell them in a more simple way ♥♥ Brittany
If you are mature enough to be truly in love, you are mature enough to tell the man that you love him. Playing games is for children.
I don't know. But, if you want a simple divorce and have no children, get in touch with a Paralegal. He can draw up the paperwork and tell you where and when to file for one flat fee. The Paralegal can not give you any legal advice, for that you will have to contact a reputable Divorce Attourney.