Depends on the situation. If the affair is happening where both parties are within physical proximity, not long at all. If there is distance (like far away places or within hundreds of miles) it may take longer, but, will become more of a "phone sex" scenario. If phone sex occurs, it is the same as physical sex because they are talking and fantasizing about (usually self stimulating as well) what they would be doing if they were together. So basically it is just used to close the distance, but the outcome is the same. Given time, as tension increases and phone sex becomes not enough anymore, both parties will figure out ways to make the physical contact happen regardless of distance.
When you are in an emotional affair, the next step is a ticking time bomb that is going to go off. It is never a question of if, but when, where and how.
Does it matter?An Affair is An Affair. Hard to accept but it is what it is, and you need to find a way to move forward with your life.
There is obviously no one size fits all answer. I would like to comment on a lack of understanding of what an emotional affair is. An emotional affair is secretive. It is not a friendship shared with both husband and wife but a relationship where only one person in the marriage is involved. It consists of conversation and possibly other activities that would not take place in the presence of the spouse.
I'm awake, I realize it's an affair. But my spouse claims that her year long affair never became physical. I have my doubts, she met him on more than one occasion and I don't understand how they just sat around a talked. Especially since they were talking daily at work and on the phone.
Emotional, sexual, it's an affair! Your spouse is cheating! Wake Up!
They are talking at work and on the phone? Boy oh boy, You've got to nip this in the bud. It's obvious by your message that they work together, and you know the co-worker. Do you realize that you are in a sense allowing this to happen. First off you should give her the alternative that it is you or the co-worker. If you have any chance of saving what you have with your spouse, she is going to have to look for another JOB. Most companies do not allow this type of activity to happen in the work place. Surprising she and he are still working at the same place. Your spouse is having an affair whether it be emotional or physical. Once the trust is gone, there is no marriage. Things will never be the same between the two of you, even if you reconcile. It will most likely take years for you to fully TRUST your spouse again. If you and your spouse want to save your marriage, it is suggested that the both of you seek some professional marriage counseling immediately.
TALK WITH YOUR WIFE, and tell her how you feel. Tell her how you are having a hard time dealing with this. Ask her if she would be receptive to some canceling, because the BOTH of you need to do this together. Seek out a GOOD MARRIAGE CONCELLOR. Maybe you will find all your answers there.
Your hurting to much.
Not long if they have the opportunity to be sexual. If they let themselves be have an emotional affair, the sex is not much different, nor is it not far behind it.
I don't think it is long either. If it is an emotional affair this can and will most of the time lead to a sexual affair.
Fifty percent of emotional affairs turn sexual. Your spouse is getting something from the other person that he/she isn't getting from you.
DOES IT MATTER? ITS ALL CHEATING AND NO ONE WHO IS IN A RELATIONSHIP SHOULD PLACE THEMSELVWS IN A SITUATION WHERE SOMETHONG COULD HAPPEN
An emotional affair isn't always an affair. Two people of the opposite sex can be very close friends without it being any more than that. I go to movies with my male and female friends both, i don't think of either as a date and neither do they, only my spouse does! My partner believes that anyone i talk to that isn't built the same as me sexually is trouble and is wanting nothing more than to break up our ten year marriage. Give your spouse some room, ultimately this shows that you aren't trusting them and that is one of the big things in a relationship. If they are really in cheating mode you can't stop them anyway now can you? Constantly badgering your spouse about who they talk to, where they were, what they did will destroy the marriage faster than anything else.
What the heck is an emotional affair? I've had physical affairs...those are pretty simple. There's a line (whatever you and your spouse agree on), and once you cross it you're cheating. But speaking as someone who's always easily and naturally formed close friendship bonds with men, the concept of an emotional affair is hard to fathom. Is it cheating just because I go out with my male friends? What about if I hang out alone with my best friend? Where's the line?
Honestly, I think the whole concept is ridiculous. Your spouse or partner is not only allowed but *entitled* to social interaction with people other than you and the kids. You cannot and will never satisfy all of his or her needs for social and intellectual companionship. And if she's not attracted to her friends, their gender is totally irrelevant. There is no reason you should be okay with a close same-sex friendship (which nearly everyone is) but call it cheating if the friend is of the opposite sex.
Usually pretty soon. Think about it, If the two of them are attach to each other on the emotional level, then why not jump into the next level (become physical) while the chance is given.Friend or Lover?I do agree with the one poster that it's possible to have a male friend because I have several (my husband has female friends) we have them for dinner, or one of us may have a drink or coffee with our friend.
To explain what an "emotional affair" is .... it's two people of the opposite sex who continually titillate each other by constantly flirting. Some people feel flirting is OK, but sooner or later one or the other is going to begin to take it the wrong way, or perhaps it's simply playing with fire. It happens! I have five words "One doth protest too much!" When this happens one or both people start to tell others "we're just friends" every chance they get and it gets rather tiring. People of the opposite sex that are really friends don't have to keep reminding everyone they are just friends.
Right now I have a girlfriend that is going through this. She has her marriage problems, but nothing communication wouldn't resolve. She has since met a married man whose wife lives in the States and isn't here in Canada. They started by bike riding together and going for coffee. That's fine and no one cared one way or the other. Suddenly she was protesting a little too much and seeing this fellow too much. Going over to his apartment or having him to her place on occasion when her husband was out of town. Sometimes her so-called male friend would come over while her husband was there. Still no one has said a word and it's no one's business, but now the two of them are protesting yet once again. This is usually an indication of guilt whether it's the thought pattern of an possible affair. It happens a lot! My friend has lost weight, is argumentative with friends, moody and a plain pain in the butt. It's that old guilt hitting her!
If you have nothing to hide then there is no reason the friend who is of the opposite sex can't come over for dinner and sit with you and your husband and enjoy the evening. Meeting in out of the way places creates suspicion by not only the spouse, but friends. Going to a movie or an occasional drink or a cup of coffee is fine, but when you're spending more time with your so-called friend then your mate there IS something wrong and it's called AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR!
Usually after an emotional affair begins, the affair may last up to several weeks or months before sexual contact begins. The emotional part of it almost seems like the first time a husband and wife met. In other words, if it is done in the fashion a marriage begins, then the people committing the affair will "Get to know" each other, spend time with each other, and then eventually fall in love. The conclusion of this is usually some sort of sexual contact. It may begin with kissing, and then gradually lead up to more intimate contact. Emotional affairs are extremely dangerous! This is why if one believes their spouse may be "Drifting away" please seek professional help immediately! this is usually what destroys a marriage!
Recent statistics state that emotional affairs are more difficult for the "cheatiavang" spouse to leave, even if not physical contact has yet taken place, than the "classical" sexual affair.
I am dating a women that is married to a verbally abusive and controlling man I can tell you that we began an emotional affair and we fell in love soon after it became physical.
I'm amazed with all of the answer here, even it's different the meaning are all the same. Emotional affair is the most dangerous affair a person can have and it does ruin the bond of marriage. When I caught my husband, first thing he told me was "were just friends." Friends who talk on the phone every single day until early morning for over two months.Just friends who never cared if he only sleep 2-3 hours every night. And they are only friends who spent time with her at her home, visiting her at work during night time, going out on a date, and if my husband can't be with her, his Friend will drive more than 100 miles so she can see him while he was working at night.
It took my husband at least 2 weeks before the emotional affair turned to more than a friend. When I got all the evidence, that's when I found out how quick my husband become addicted to this woman. He admit that they are not doing anything wrong because they haven't slept together only making out at the beach, her home, and inside the car. That is why we have separated life.
An emotional affair IS an affair. Just because one hasn't had sex with said mistress/ lover doesn't mean it isn't one. Depending on someone/ slash yearning for them emotionally (besides one's spouse) is exactly that- an affair.
When your spouse has an emotional affair, it takes on a different meaning than a physical affair. Emotional affairs mean that your spouse has given part of their love and devotion to someone else. When it is about sex, you can find ways to move past it easier. When it involves emotion, well that is a whole different animal.
If you are strictly dating one boyfriend or are married and you or both of you have cheated and been honest about it, it's still in the category of cheating. Learn from it! Cheating gets you nowhere, but a bad reputation. Marcy
define emotional affair
Not long at all. For me my emotions got the best of me.
An emotional affair is the same as what most people think of when they think of an affair except less the intimate parts. An emotional affair is an affair that allows its participants think that they are not doing anything wrong because of no intimacy. Anytime you are spending private moments with someone of the opposite sex at private times you are having an emotional affair. If you are close in anyway to someone of the opposite sex and you can't reveal everything that is said, you might be in an emotional affair. If you're emails are all that private you might be having an emotional affair. It's cheating plain and simple DON'T BE FOOLED! ANSWER: Emotional affair generally starts innocently enough as a friendship. Emotional affairs is type of cheating without having a sexual relationship. It's also a gateway affairs leading to a full blown sexual infidelity. This happened to me from the man I married. He met a woman on a dating site because he was hungry to find someone who will listen to him talk. Unfortunately this man is not a talkative person with me from the start of our relationship. and he proven me wrong. Only with me his having a problem communicating. So overall, our life will never be the same anymore.
if you leave his cheating butt, he is no longer having an affair, he's getting laid elsewhere...you should be healing your emotional wounds and standing on your feet NOT your knees
Of course not ... chatting = conversation (talk) ... cheating = having an affair (sex) ... so, sex is not conversation ... talk is not an affair. Anyone is entitled to talk to anyone they so choose.Another POV:It can be. The idea that a sexual affair is the only form of cheating is a limited view. An emotional affair can be just as much a betrayal. If you are engaged in a chat/internet relationship with someone to the detriment of your physical, non-virtual relationship, then it is cheating.
either one he doesn't like you anymore or two cheating on you
Because they don't love that person. They only "Love" themself.
An "emotional affair" is an affair, which excludes physical intimacy but includes emotional intimacy. It may also be called an affair of the heart. Where one partner is in a committed monogamous relationship, an emotional affair is a type of chaste nonmonogamy without consummation. When the affair breaches an agreement in the monogamous relationship of one of the partners to the affair, the term infidelity may be more apt source: wikipedia
Some would call it, at the very least, an emotional affair provided it doesn't get physical between the two.
Statistics are generally not correct. People who cheat on their spouses do so in secret and that is why it's called cheating or having an affair. Many who are cheating now will not be counted in a correct percentage of statistics because they have not been caught .... yet.
Losing the person your having an affair on as well as the person that your having the affair with. Having an affair for someone is just that they are cheating but it becomes less of a fling when they have the option to have that person one on one and then its not so interesting anymore. You end up with nothing in the end.
The real danger of a spouse's emotional affair is that often the spouse emotionally cheating does not feel they can come to their married spouse and talk out any problems and there is a huge void of good communication skills. Everyone has marriage problems and the two people in the marriage should be mature enough to discuss anything they are not happy about so they can strengthen their marriage and if this doesn't happen then one of the spouses will often go to the opposite sex to get their slant on the problem at hand and emotions run high and this can lead to a sexual relationship.
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Each individual is different when it comes to an emotional affair. It can last a couple of months to more than a year. The person having the emotional affair has to make the decision in their own lives. Ask themselves if the person they are having an emotional affair with has a mate or is married (that is a no-no) or does the person that is the target of the emotional affair care for the other person the same way. If the person is unattached and the person who is having the emotion affair with them should be communicating how they feel to this person.
There are no concise statistics that men are more susceptible than women to emotional affairs. If male or females feel lonely; rejected or ignored by their spouse they can innocently find friendship in the opposite sex which runs a high risk of becoming an affair.ANSWER:Absolutely even if they hide it, it comes our during affair or discovery of the affair and this include my ex...
Yes, when a spouse has been cheated on they are emotionally confused; deeply hurt; lose of trust and anger. To have another affair with someone else breaks the bond of trust that was in the marriage vows and most married couples try to make an effort to be honest with each other, but, unfortunately this idea of honesty seems to be fading quickly by the high statistics of cheating spouses, but a small percentage do make it through a long marriage without either having an affair.
you try to fight it but if it gets out of hand u must stop being friends to keep ur relationship going
Most probably yes. Even if it has not come to sex yet, it is an emotional affair.
You are in a dangerous situation. If the person you are having an affair with is cheating on their spouse, you must examine the possibility of that same person cheating on you with yet another person. Those who cheat on their spouses have no clue what a solid relationship is all about, and engaging in a love relationship with someone like that is probably not a good idea at all. In addition to the above remember that this is an affair and you, them or both of you already have a spouse and in most cases this is just something on the side and someone does not want to leave their spouse especially for someone that is willing to have an affair.
Like what I wrote in my first one, yes it is. emotional affair is worst than anything else when our spouse have the affair. Emotional affair does not contain sex between the married man and the other person but you can be sure that they do fantasize it and talk to each others how it will feel if they can kiss or touch one another...