If you study Narcissists they are extremely interesting. We are all chameleons in this world to a point, but the narcissist takes it to the extreme. Narcissists seem to have a knack for sizing up each individual as to how hard they can push them and when it comes to a mate they always choose the ones that are loving, kind and can be manipulated easily. This makes the victim feel they have done something wrong and haven't been strong enough and should have known better, but, in truth we are suppose to possess love and kindness. In time as we age we are much more cynical about people so it becomes easier to figure out people. We are all in a learning field and make mistakes along the way and hope to correct them. Therefore, it's not how many different lives the Narcissist has, but simply how many humans can he con! They fit into families, with their own gender and of course with the opposite sex, but one thing is for sure .... everything has it's time and sooner or later the Narcissist's true colors will come out. If you come across one stay clear because they aren't worth the skin they're in!
Many of the ignore the R.O.
a lot of travels
The Doctor travels in his tardis to many places.
Travels - book - has 377 pages.
Travels in the Scriptorium has 160 pages.
Travels with My Cello has 129 pages.
Notes from My Travels has 213 pages.
Travels with My Aunt has 319 pages.
As many times as the supply will allow him to. So STOP allowing him to.
The Travels of Jaimie McPheeters has 544 pages.
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Cbt approach in terms of looking at safety behaviours/ defenses would be useful. The narcissist would need to have some insight and willing to change as with any therapeutic approach. The therapist would need to be very boundaried and not open to manipulation. Session homework should be contacted in. Where there are long term issues of childhood the narcissist may wish to explore psychotherapy although at some point they will need to be willing to change and narcissists often don't want to change. (Why would anyone if they get immediate gratification and addiction fed). However, for those narcissists that acknowledge the pain they put others through and want some continuity in their lives, therapy is an option. Even more so, the victims of narcissist abuse need help through the post trauma of the narcissist abandonment, and to learn to adhere to the no contact rule for their own sanity! The narcissist's return is never because they love you, no need to play detective, just accept you are one of many addictions, an object to play with until they start the cycle again. If you have emotions you won't be able to stay in a relationship with a narcissist. As Sam Vaknin has said, mirror the narcissist, but to do that you have to be non- emotional and acknowledge that he projects his own inadequacies onto you, blames you for the very things he does, plays on your guilt, lies and cheats. If you can avoid internalising this and give to the narcissist and have your own needs ignored, then you need to look at your self esteem. Do not lose yourself to a figment of your imagination, keep a journal of the narcissist behaviour, and move on. The narcissist will be hurt to see you move on, and happy as they have no control and that liberation will empower you.