"ME AND MY SHADOW!" That's exactly true! He'll be trying his very best to be in plain sight when you are around and be as good as he can be. He'll probably try to please you and be a real good boy. Anyone can make one mistake and although I don't blame you for mistrusting him right now (he has broken that trust with you) he does deserve another chance. You just never know if you'd be in a situation of cheating as he was. Most of us never think this could happen to us, but given the right circumstances and the maturity level of the person it's possible.
If he is sneaking phone calls, going off to another room while talking on the phone, working a lot of late nights or not turning up at home until late then I would say you have much to be concerned about.
From the moment the affairs is been discovered, your life will never be the same anymore. It doesn't matter if it's you or your husband who had the affairs, nothing will be normal anymore between the two of you. You are the only one who can read or notice the action of your husband. But for others, and I will include myself, few things I notied from the man I married, he stop hiding his cell phone, he moved his office desk back to our study room, he stop signing out off his computer, he started calling on the phone again just to say what time he got in to work. But the truth is it doesn't really matter all the changes his showing me, if he wants to do it again, he will find the way no matter what...
If it is yes most definately.
Maybe he doesn't want the affair to be over.
You do not tell your husband's girlfriend's employer anything. The employer is a businessman and is not interested in the private affairs of his employees unless it interferes with their work performance. It should be your husband you are going after and if you feel the relationship is over then file for divorce. Your husband is the one that started this affair because he either provoked the affair or he could have said 'no' if she suggested having an affair with him. Put the blame where it belongs ... your husband!
you can actually sue him and the chick he's affair with. Also I don't suggest a divorce. You promised to God that you are married with ONE person and I suggest going to marriage counselor before and start over and hopefully your husband wont go back to his ways and see you as the good woman you truly are.
When he decided to cheat over and over again to gain his mistress he was already done with his wife for whatever reason. At the time the wife discovered the affair and realized the husband was more concerned with the mistress is the moment the wife should be done with him... Big mistake on his part!
When the contact has diminished or been rare, avoidance and lack of any contact in general.
If the affair is over then you should forget it. Put it behind you and hopefully never repeat it.
That's his responsibility. If he is still seeing her, the affair is not over. You can't control your husband. A spouse has the right to the respect, loyalty and faithfulness of their partner. If your husband can't control his behavior then you need to assess your status as his wife and whether you want your present situation to continue. Are you better off with him or without him?
It is much better if the husband admits to his affair because it shows he has remorse and humans make mistakes, but when a husband has the intestinal fortitude to admit he was wrong in what he did then he is ready to try and make the marriage work. A husband who has to be caught in an affair may even become angry over the fact his wife found out and he is neither remorseful and basically selfish not considering the hurt he is inflicting on his wife and family.
Having an affair can be emotionally devastating for one's spouse. So, it is not surprising that a person's spouse would ignore them after they learned of an affair. To make a marriage work following infidelity, both parties need to be willing to work it out, and they should likely attend couple's therapy.
Time to end the marriage and move on to someone who will be a real husband.
u can over come anything if u put your mind to it :)