How to stay in a marriage after your spouse has an emotional affair?
Do you love your spouse; simple enough. If you love them, then you need to work on fixing what went wrong that made your love look elsewhere for support. If you don't love them enough to fix whatever went wrong, then you need to let them go and work on yourself - so when the chance for love comes again you are prepared.
If you want to stay in the marriage for love, I would suggest counseling and a pledge for the two of you to learn to be more honest with each other about your needs.
If you want to stay in the marriage for love, I would suggest counseling and a pledge for the two of you to learn to be more honest with each other about your needs.
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How do you trust a spouse who admits to an emotional affair but stresses he was only helping a friend?
She was having serious family trouble but he didn't tell me he washelping her because I was overly jealous of her. He is also herboss. I understand him helping her but he deceived me for months.He admitted to talking to her daily, working closely with her,going to lunch with her but says he was only… helping her since itwas affecting her job and just got in too deep. Do I believe him ornot. I was the one who discovered it and have had to drag anyinformation out, he hasn't really offered anything on his own butsays he loves me and wants to be together forever. He needs to endthe relationship now, end contact as much as possible (onlybusiness discussions at work), and enter into marital counselingwith you. Your marriage won't ever be the same, if you want to stayin your marriage, you will have to learn to trust him again, and hewill have to admit to the problems that caused him to turn to thisco worker. I'm sorry about what's going on to you, but if your husband stillwon't discuss what happened and admit to the affair, there aregoing to be a lot of problems and resentments in your marriage. Myhusband admitted to an emotional affair, but for two LONG yearsadamantly said they were "just good friends" - my response wasalways the same - you can't be "just good friends" with theopposite sex if you are already in a relationship. What was the result? He has just admitted to me he is in love withher and doesn't know how it happened - although he still loves metoo. Men (and women) are more vulnerable than they think - peoplein this situation think they are so strong and "would never letthis happen", but it snuck up on him, and like others, foundhimself in this predicament. Closeness eventually creates intimacy, and because both marriedparties (the friends) think they have boundaries - ie, "we aremarried therefor we know we won't fall in love" become closer andcloser until it's too late. Sirach Chapter 36:25 writes "A property with no fence will beplundered." or "Where no hedge is, there the possession isspoiled." You and your husband must establish boundaries within your life toprotect all that you have. Take it from me, an emotional affair isan affair. He is obviously getting something from her he isn'tgetting from you. If she didn't mean anything to him, he wouldn'thave let this go on for so long. Being involved with her,regardless if there wasn't/isn't any sex, he still was giving heremotional support,time, needs and so forth. He was giving her whathe should have been giving you. Tell him how you feel about everything. And ask him to stop beingthere for her. He needs to be there for you. An emotional affair is an affair. Fifty percent of emotionalaffairs turn physical. Good Luck. My heart goes out to you. Emotional affair is still anaffair. I don't know. I'm going through the same thing. He says they werejust friends and he needed to talk to her about me. He gave hermore time than me and told her intimate details of our marriage. Hewon't admit it was an affair but I disagree. I would like to knowhow to trust him again also. I can't believe anything he says and Iam hurt and angry and feel he is not doing his part to help makethis work. He says he loves me and wants to stay married to me. Ijust don't see it. We need help. Any ideas would be greatlyappreciated. Matthew 5:28 "I say to you that everyone who keeps looking at swoman so as to have a passion for her has already committedadultery with her in his heart." No such thing as just beingfriends when your are married. He is really just beingUNFAITHFUL!!! Answer: Mutual trust is vital to marital happiness, if that ismissing, there is hard work to do. Lies, half-truths, and evensilence undermine trust. So you need to speak openly and honestlywith each other. Anyone can you make their marriage honorable. Youneed to avoid behavior that will damage the marital arrangement. Inaddition, you need to take steps that will strengthen the maritalbond. God's basic instruction for marriage: "A man will leave hisfather and his mother and he will stick to his wife." (Genesis2:24) Of course, those who marry still respect their parents;however, it is God's arrangement that their foremost obligation isto their spouse. To be unfaithful to a mate is not normal. It isbetrayal. In real life, disloyalty and betrayal cause pain andsuffering. Some practical suggestions are as follows for marriagemates: They should (1) be honest with each other; (2) work as ateam; (3) replace old habits with new ones; and (4) know when tolet go of resentment, seeking to heal the breach. Only you candecide if it is time to move on. See Jehovah's Witnesses for thisand many older olders to help married couples. Answer also: A successful marriage requires giving exclusivedevotion to your mate. Your marriage mate has first claim on yourtime, attention and emotional energy. Any relationship that takeswhat rightly belongs to your mate and gives it to someone else is aform of infidelity, even if no sexual activity is involved. Anemotional dependency with someone of the opposite sex can grow andcommunication in person, by telephone, or through online chat couldbecome a betrayal of trust. Marriage mates expect that certaintopics will be discussed only with each other and that theirconfidential talk will be kept private. Beware of rationalizingthat no romantic feelings exist when in fact they may. The heart istreacherous says Jeremiah 17:9 "The heart is more treacherous thananything else and is desperate. Who can know it?" If in a closerelationship with someone of the opposite sex a person should askthemselves: "Am I defensive or secretive about the relationship?Would I be comfortable if my mate overheard our conversations? Howwould I feel if my mate cultivated a similar friendship? Animproper relationship can lead to marital disaster, since emotionalcloseness paves the way for eventual sexual intimacy. Even ifadultery does not result, the damage caused by loss of trust can beextremely difficult to repair. What can help all married persons isthe following: Keep friendships with members of the opposite sexwithin appropriate boundaries. Do not ignore the presence ofimproper feelings or rationalize impure motives. If you sense thata relationship threatens your marriage, act quickly to limit or endit. The Bible says "Shrewd is the one who has seen the calamity andproceeds to conceal himself. - Proverbs 22:3. (see 4/09 Awakearticle Marital Fidelity - What Does it Really Mean? on Jehovah'sWitnesses official website) ( Full Answer )
Could an abusive woman who you rejected after a brief affair make you stay friends with her by using emotional abuse and threatening to tell your wife of your affair?
This is a mess you partially made, so you're responsible for cleaning it up.. A person can use emotional blackmail in an attempt to control an ongoing relationship. Regardless if you want to stay in your marriage or not, realize your affair seems to be a toxic relationship. Drop all contact with he…r, do not respond to any messages or threats. It's probably the last thing you want to do, but it's time to come clean with your spouse about this situation--your wife would rather hear the truth from you than from the other woman, whose intent would be to hurt her and get revenge on you.. Answer . This is weird on several levels. Can she MAKE you stay friends. How the heck do you do that? A friend is someone who wants to be there and to help. SHe can't make you want anything. You have to choose. However, she can make you DO anything you are willing to let her make you do while holding that over your head. But then the question gets deeper. Do you want to remain married to your wife? Why? If so, why did you have an affair? Had the person not been a fruitcake abuser, would you have continued your affair? If someone better comes along will you do it again? In short, do you really love your wife? These questions are ones you really need to look into yourself for. You must remember, people make mistakes, it is how you handle them that is the mark of your worth. You are handling this poorly. If you truly love your wife, you would want to tell her about this because your guilt would consume you. If you don't, then you have to wonder why you are there in the first place. Either way, you need to stand up to this woman and tell her that she's free to do as she wishes, but you want nothing else to do with her - IF that's what you really want. Then you need to face the consequences of your actions. She may be bluffing. Or she may tell. If she tells, then you will have to explain and try to salvage the relationship and re-earn her trust if you can. In short, you just need to stop what you are doing and do what you think is RIGHT regardless of the consequences to yourself.. Answer . Like the other posters, I think you are going to have to tell your wife and fix your marriage. It is the right thing to do, given the marriage committment. Visit a counselor if you need help in finding the way to do this. In addition, telling your wife will take all ammunition from the woman who is holding you hostage. In addition, you can choose the time (NOW) and not become an emotional wreck on her time. This woman is not a friend in any sense of the world, so you have no obligations to make it possible for her to be a friend. Doing the right thing here definitely will pay off. ( Full Answer )
\n. \n Answer \n. \nWith emotional affairs you have to be careful not to accuse the person of cheating. You need to sit down with your spouse and start COMMUNICATING. Ask your spouse what is bothering them and how both of you can improve on your relationship. Take it slow and easy. Peopl…e have emotional affairs (or even affairs) because they are missing something in their marriage. Perhaps lack of attention on your part.\n. \nI am going through this very thing with a girlfriend of mine. She is 47 years old and her husband is 43. They have no children. She is an extremely energetic and vibrant woman, while her husband is a laid-back guy, loves sports, goes out with his pals to play hockey and now is into baseball and reserves very little time for her. She expressed to me (I'm her best friend) that she felt LONELY! She said when her husband was around he didn't want to talk about anything interesting, plan for holidays, go biking with her and was always anxious to get out the door to play hockey or just sit in front of the TV or computer. NO he's not cheating on her because my husband and I go to some of his hockey games. It appears that both my friends have grown into other interests and left nothing for each other. I told her to communicate with him which she hasn't yet. Now she has found this nice fellow (also married, but his wife lives in the States) and they have much in common. They are just friends. They go bike riding together and sit and chat and he considers her intelligent, etc., and tells her so. She laps this up because she needs to hear these things and unfortunately her husband should be telling her these things and not her male friend. She has talked to me about it since and I was honest in saying that this could start out as just friends, but she'd better be careful because she could be faced with falling in love or cheating. It's playing with fire. Her husband knows she is seeing this fellow to go bike riding and hasn't got the hint he should be spending more time with his wife. He looks at it as "freeing up his time" to play more hockey and baseball.\n. \nStart communicating with your spouse before it's too late!\n. \nGood luck ( Full Answer )
You don't, no one can. Emotional affair is the hardest and very painful that any of us can experience. The feel of betrayal, trust will be the main key of this annoying words, "emotional." You never thought that your spouse can be so intimate with the other man or woman. You will feel lost, uncertai…n of why your spouse can be so honest, emotionally connected with her or him. The only way that I know that help me survive my husband's emotional affair with his woman, is to let him go, and maybe times will help me to ease the pain he gave me. A different Answer: You can survive an emotional affair as others of us have survived: one day at a time. Sometimes you might get through one hour at a time, or one cup of coffee at a time. Although it may not seem possible, it is absolutely true that the pain will grow less over time, although it may not entirely go away. But healing is possible. In the meantime, two important tips: 1. let yourself weep and grieve. You can even set aside a specific time to cry, and a specific time to stop crying. 2. Stay away from alcohol and drugs. They do not help, but will make things worse. And please remember: others have been down this road before you. It does get better from here. ( Full Answer )
An emotional affair is the same as what most people think of when they think of an affair except less the intimate parts. An emotional affair is an affair that allows its participants think that they are not doing anything wrong because of no intimacy. Anytime you are spending private moments with s…omeone of the opposite sex at private times you are having an emotional affair. If you are close in anyway to someone of the opposite sex and you can't reveal everything that is said, you might be in an emotional affair. If you're emails are all that private you might be having an emotional affair. It's cheating plain and simple DON'T BE FOOLED! ANSWER: Emotional affair generally starts innocently enough as a friendship. Emotional affairs is type of cheating without having a sexual relationship. It's also a gateway affairs leading to a full blown sexual infidelity. This happened to me from the man I married. He met a woman on a dating site because he was hungry to find someone who will listen to him talk. Unfortunately this man is not a talkative person with me from the start of our relationship. and he proven me wrong. Only with me his having a problem communicating. So overall, our life will never be the same anymore. ( Full Answer )
Is it common for a spouse who has been repeatedly cheated on to have an affair of their own but still want to stay in the marriage?
I don't know how common it is but it is certainly possible. Sometimes they may believe that if they have an affair they may be able to get over the fact of what has been done to them and in most cases it does not work.
In-laws are one of the most common reasons for divorce. They lovetheir children and want them to be happy. Unfortunately, they thinkthey can manipulate things by interfering.
If it is you that is having an emotional affair then all youhave to do is stop contacting the person you are having theemotional affair with by keeping busy; not texting or answering thephone and moving forward in your life. If it's a boyfriend;husband; girlfriend or wife then you need to confront t…hem and letthem know you are not putting up with their emotional affair andthe only way they can prove to you they are not continuing to do sois asking them to bar themselves from either the forum they may beon where they met the other person or, ceasing to accept textmessages, etc., from this person. If they continue to have theemotional affair then you need to walk away from this person andfind a new love in your life. Answer2: Sadly you cannot stop an emotional affair. All you can dois remind your mate of what marriage really should be and hopehe/she comes to their senses. Our Creator intended that marriageshould be the closest relationship between two humans. He said thathusband and wife must become one flesh. This one-flesh bondinvolves mere than sexual intimacy. It includes an emotional bond,which is strengthened by unselfishness, trust and mutual respect.Applying these principles will protect your marriage from damagecaused by mental and emotional unfaithfulness. Remind your mate that an improper relationship can lead to maritaldisaster, since emotional closeness paves the way for eventualsexual intimacy. Even if adultery does not result, the damagecaused by loss of trust can be extremely difficult to repair. (4/09Awake article Marital Fidelity What Does It Really Mean? Jehovah'sWitnesses official website) ( Full Answer )
I am assuming you are talking about your marriage..or someone's. The answer is..it depends on you or the other party. In a strained marriage...if nothing changes on the homefront to improve the relationship, yes, it usually does. I think you have to define in your mind the definition of "emotional a…ffair". Is this just a good friend, or was it a good friend that now has become a flirtatious relationship? Or is it just an emotional support friend without flirtation? Flirtation is the first sign of a potential physical affair. I'm not talking about someone saying you look good today, or you always look good...these are probably innocent supportive statements from a friend who knows you/them are emotionally depressed. I'm talking about very direct statements like "Just once I'd like to see you without your bikini on" or something like that. My wife had an affair, a physical one, because she was emotionally disattached from me. I did nothing to improve the situation for a long time, so it went to a physical affair. If I had opened the path of communication it might have not happened. I hope I helped if your question was about emotional and physical affair as it pertains to marriage. ( Full Answer )
The need to be loved is a fundamental basic need in all human beings. It is such a powerful need that, as shown by vile Nazi experiments that hopefully will never be repeated, unloved babies didn't thrive and eventually died. Biologically, the human race is built to survive and reproduce. As part o…f that, people have powerful sex drives, and on a purely biological level a man has a drive to inseminate as many women as possible. (Women have similar drives, but the question was specifically about men). When something has what I call 'survival value' it is difficult to go against 'nature' and behave differently. As these drives are so strong, almost every society has rules, mores, customs, laws and practices that try to regulate them in order to limit the damage caused when their use is used in an antisocial way. In unmarried men or those not in a committed relationship, a certain amount of 'sowing wild oats' is accepted. Emotional affairs are closely related to physical affairs. All humans need to feel loved, feel admired, interesting, believed in, respected, understood and honoured. These feelings are usually satisfied in the early stages of a relationship, and both people love and feel loved. As time passes the couple tend to be busy coping with the daily demands of work, housework, childcare and other ordinary things. Very often evenings are busy with meal preparation, bathing kids, seeing to homework etc that the couple end up watching TV or doing something on a computer. They are physically in the same room but not communicating. Soon they may feel unappreciated and resentments start to creep in. It is at this time that the man may feel that his wife does not understand him. Then another woman may start listening to him, appreciating him and communicating that she finds him interesting and attractive, and an emotional affair may well start then. That may then lead to a physical affair as the drive to reproduce for the human race to survive kicks in. To prevent this, I believe that it is healthier for a relationship to discover the OFF button on the television and computer and to spend time every day listening to each other, talking to each other and being supportive of each other. This keeps the bond alive and the temptation to give in to very natural drives is reduced. Humans have the ability to allow their heads to rule their hearts, and the strength to resist temptation is based in a warm, satisfying and loving relationship. I apologise for the exclusively heterosexual tone of this answer, but I can't speak with much insight on alternative lifestyles, and I hope that no one is offended. Someone else with better understanding will hopefully add to this and improve it. ( Full Answer )
Yes you do before it's to late and before it gets to bad. The worst thing that a person can do is to know that their spouse is falling for another person. I don't know the situation that your having with your spouse but take my words for it from my own experience and nightmares learning that the man… I married didn't have no problem giving his heart to another woman. If the two of you have children, think about your children and what could happen if you don't stop this now. If you still love your spouse or let say you want to give it another chance, think if you can have the trust you used to have. ( Full Answer )
Answer If you are one in the emotional affair I guess you could know it's over if you no longer have the emotional feelings towards the other person or they no longer have them towards you. If you are not one of the parties in the emotional affair there is really no way to know for sure if it's o…ver or not. Unlike sexual affairs, emotional affairs can be very strong and deep rooted, and can sometimes be real love. In this case the emotional affair may never be over. It just depends on the bond between the two people. ( Full Answer )
When a woman has an affair with a married man and becomes his mistress she will be the loser. Some men cannot remain faithful to their spouse and will cheat behind their back hoping to not get caught, but generally do get caught. Some men want to recapture their youth and are thrilled a younger woma…n is interested in them. If a mistress thinks the married man who is now divorced is going to come running to them they are sadly mistaken. Some men will try to get back with their wife while others will enjoy their freedom and they certainly don't want to commit to another relationship right away. The mistress may still be in the life of this man, but for sexual purposes only. ( Full Answer )
Why would a man stay with his mistress after his wife finds out about the affair and he chooses to 'work' on his marriage?
I would guess the reason why could be that he wants to keep his mistress and his wife at the same time. he doesn't want to loose you and at the same time he needs to make amends to his wife, so if the wife wanted a divorce, he will not loose money because of their children Just imagine if he can ke…ep his wife and if he can't have sex with her, he knows where to go, you as the mistress. And for a mistress, she don't have the rights to wonder why her married man wanted to save his marriage. ( Full Answer )
To have an emotional affair is a serious problem that needs to be concern about. It's not like buying a furniture and if we don't like it, we can return it. Emotional affair is and can ruin marriages and family. Most married men will say they are not doing anything wrong, "only friendship" or they a…re not having an affair because there's no sex involve. The reality is man or woman who have this connection to another person other than their spouse are already having deep feelings to this person and it will not stop. So if this is where you are now, its time for you to really think whether your family in not important anymore to your heart. Good luck! ADDITION: From my own personal experience the man I married had emotional affair with the woman he met on a dating site. He never cared because all he wanted was to find a friends,( women's friend). The result of his emotional affair was having a second life without his family knowing. No matter how or why if we can rebuild our marriage, it will not be the same anymore, finding out that he can fall in love with this married woman, ( now divorce) within 3 weeks, that is all I need to know to let him go and have my life on my own with my children. ( Full Answer )
Emotional affair is really bad and it will destroy the marriage. It can damage a relationship more than one night stand. The betrayal will be painful that saving the marriage will be hard. Emotional affair is about sharing deep thoughts and feelings with someone other than your partner and about kee…ping emotional secrets. It's easier to get over a one night stand than emotional affair. Because a one night stand is meaningless and doesn't involve true feelings or personal thoughts. To have emotional affair can occurs when deep connection are forged. It's more loving and connected than physical sex. If you or your spouse are having this feelings, think carefully if it's worth loosing the people that we love just because there's someone new that's listening to what ever we want to talk. It's not worth it, from my experience it was the end of our marriage. ( Full Answer )
huge i am leaving her after 2 years i saw a text about i love you miss you she says it was a game now its reality they can have each other you don't do that to someone if you r in a committed relationship
Why do some married men think an emotional affair is nothing but a friendship and it's not hurting his marriage?
Both married men and women who have emotional affairs begin innocently enough with just talking to the opposite sex on a friendship basis and the more the friend responds the higher the risk that the friendship could become sexual. Men and women simply do not think clearly ahead to know that when th…ey may lean on someone of the opposite sex for any reason that this could well end up in an affair. ( Full Answer )
If you did everything you know and tried to make some sense towards your husbands problem, I think it's time for you to let him go. Even if he change and God knows it might take a long time, how can you live with a man that you called husband if all he wants is to be with this woman. You are the wif…e but it looks like you are the mistress with his attitude. Let him go and get a divorce and move on. . Humans are not perfect and when two people get married they should love and honor each other and try to communicate between each other to resolve any problems in the marriage. Marriage does not come with a book of instructions so there will be some bumpy patches in everyone's marriage. If your husband's affair was not a common practice by him and he slipped up once then you both should seek marriage counseling and try to save the marriage. Too many married couples hit a bumpy patch and want to bail out of their marriage far too quickly. When a spouse loses interest in their spouse often it is because there is no communications (able to discuss problems; how each of the partners feel about certain issues) and try to resolve the problems. Those who walk away from a marriage without trying to a point have no staying power. Start talking to your husband and if he is not willing to seek marriage counseling then separate from him first so he will know what it is like not having you around and perhaps he will realize how much he loves you. All humans do not know themselves 100% and therefore make mistakes, but hopefully learn from them. ( Full Answer )
When your spouse has an emotional affair, it takes on a different meaning than a physical affair. Emotional affairs mean that your spouse has given part of their love and devotion to someone else. When it is about sex, you can find ways to move past it easier. When it involves emotion, well that is …a whole different animal. ( Full Answer )
if you can belive u can trust. I am new and don't know how to add to the question so I will post it here. A few months back I caught my wife having an emotional affair with a man in Moroco (we are in Virginia). They met online and were talking late at night over a webcam while I was asleep. I would… wake up at three in the morning and hear her laughing when she was supposedly doing homework. I would ask her what was so funny, and she would oint to an informercial (What?!?!). So I put spyware on her computer and found her undressing for the the man and asking him to do the same. I also saw IMs where they would say they loved each other. He was also trying to gain entrance into the U.S. and needed her to contact the Morocan Embassey on his behalf. I confronted her on it, but she said they were just friends and I was just being paranoid. She then stopped talking to him. She would go on to blame me for what happened and side with him when I said he was just using her and that this was the same as having sex with him. Time went on and she didnt talk to him. However recently he contacted her because he is coming to the U.S.. She promised to meet up with him whenever he had a chance. All this happened behind my back. Should I confront her now or wait until she actually sees him? Should I leave her or accept her excuses for what she claims are "friends"? ( Full Answer )
Decide whats best for you. Whatever you do, don't have an affiar.It just makes everything equally as bad! If you want to avoid itthen stay away from the person your thinking about having an affairwith. Try and forget about them as much you can and if you cantstop and get to the point where it is rui…ning whatver you have withthe other person then you know that that's the person you should bewith. Think seriously about your marriage if married, look down the roadat the consequences of your action before you become emotionallyattached. Are you willing to risk it all. An emotional attachmentis just like committing adultery, you just have not acted on it.Matthew 5:28 " I say that everyone who keeps looking at a woman soas to have a passion for her has already committed adultery withher in his heart." This same principle would apply if a woman looksat a man this way. Answer2: By refusing to dwell on adulterous fantasies, yousafeguard your heart and protect your marriage. A successfulmarriage requires giving exclusive devotion to your mate. Yourmarriage mate has first claim on your time, attention and emotionalenergy. Any relationship that takes what rightly belongs to yourmate and gives it to someone else is a form of infidelity, even ifno sexual activity is involved. Communication with someone otherthan your mate in person, by telephone, by text or online chatcould become a betrayal of trust. Beware of rationalizing that noromantic feelings exist when in fact they may. The heart istreacherous says Jeremiah 17:9 "The heart is more treacherous thananything else and is desperate. Who can know it? If you have aclose friendship with someone of the opposite sex as yourself: Am Idefensive or secretive about the relationship? Would I becomfortable if my mate overheard our conversations? How would Ifeel if my mate cultivated a similar friendship. An improperrelationship can lead to marital disaster since emotional closenesspaves the way for eventual sexual intimacy. (see 4/09 Awake MaritalFidelity-What Does It Really Mean - article on Jehovah's Witnessofficial website) ( Full Answer )
When a spouse has had an affair and broken that bond of trust it is difficult to earn back. Going to marriage counseling may help the situation and explain to the spouse that marriage counseling is not about blaming one of the spouses, but giving them tools to learn to communicate in their marriage …and know how to rectify any future problems in their marriage. Many couples may have experienced one spouse having an affair and it is not uncommon for both couples to have an affair, but, they do manage to save their marriage. It is entirely up to the couple. ( Full Answer )
That's Biblically the only reason for divorce. Can you ever trust your partner again after that?
No, divorce is just a way out sometimes. It depends on how much remorse the cheating spouse has, and if both are willing to work towards making it work. If the spouse who didn't cheat hangs it over the others head, then it definitely wont work. If the spouse forgives the other, and looks to a bright…er future then nothing is impossible! ( Full Answer )
Yes, often times a separation is a good thing when one spouse has had an affair. It gives each spouse a chance to stand back and reflect on how they feel and if they really love their spouse or whether to move on from the marriage. Once a spouse has cheated it is difficult to earn the trust back fro…m the other spouse. Perhaps put a few months limit on the separation and then meet to discuss how both of you feel about each other. The quote, 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder' may apply in this case. Sometimes spouses don't know how lucky they are and how much they love their spouse until they are no longer there. ( Full Answer )
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Often an emotional affair can begin very innocently with a friendship from work, church or the neighborhood. A flirtatious online relationship can also develop into an emotional affair. Couples who're not emotionally connecting are in greatest risk of falling into a difficult affair with someone els…e. This new connection brings about a fresh excitement, a spark, particularly when someone you find attractive shows a sincere interest in you as a person and "gets" you a lot more than you feel your partner does. ( Full Answer )
What is the use of rebuilding your marriage after your spouse affair if he can't do what he promised to you?
It takes two to make a marriage successful and no marriage is 100% perfect and if your spouse has not kept their promise after the affair and continues to keep up the affair; start a new one or refuses to seek marriage counseling or whatever you promised each other then you will have to come full ci…rcle and realize that you cannot control someone else and what they say and do and you have the control to stop enabling your spouse's behavior by at least getting a separation which will show him you mean business and with luck he may change and if not, then consider yourself lucky and consider divorce and realize there is life after marriage and you can make a life for yourself with someone else. ( Full Answer )
ANSWER: I didn't because the man I married hardly show his emotion when our marriage was still intact. so I guess I can put myself to those wives that was called damn?
you try to fight it but if it gets out of hand u must stop being friends to keep ur relationship going
You don't. You have to make an educated guess based on your knowledge of your spouse's personality.
When an ex mistress of the husband in question refuses to leave him alone it is one of two things: he is not making it clear to her that the affair is over and is still in touch with her or, she has an obsession with him and will not take no for an answer. The ball is in your husband's court and he …should be looking after this problem. If he is serious about ending the relationship with his mistress and she stalking or constantly phone him or bothering him at work all he has to do is see a lawyer and get a restraining order put against her. If he refuses to do this then be wary that he does not want to completely end the relationship with her. ( Full Answer )
You can avoid anything that you WANT to avoid. The "it just happened" excuse is just that! An excuse! If your spouse is not paying attention to you, you need to talk to him/her in a calm, non-accusing tone and tell them your feeling neglected and lonely and that you miss his/her attention and affect…ion. If after you open your heart and soul to your spouse and tried to work things out and nothing changes, you need to ask yourself if you can continue on in a loveless marriage. It may be time to leave. Please seek counseling for support when deciding to take such a big step. Good luck! ( Full Answer )
Well even though you know everything and your husband thinks that you don't know anything the best thing to do is the confront him and tell him that he needs to be 100% honest with you and that most of the time relationships break because someone was not honest to his/her partner. That's all i gotta… say and for you ladies i suggest you stay single until you know that the guy you have met is going to be there for you and will always love and cherrish you and most importantly he will never cheat on you. Dr.Drew ( Full Answer )
People are only human and make mistakes so if this is the first time your spouse has cheated on you and they are willing to go to marriage counseling to learn tools to deal with problems in the marriage then yes, there are marriages that survive an affair and end up being stronger for it.
Yes, some do. This might be because they don't want to be lonely, or what they did was a mistake, or they were drunk when they did it and they didn't mean it.
My heart goes out to you. That's a sad situation to be in for anyone. On top of that, the affair now raises issue of trust. If your aim is truly to save your marriage, my humblest suggestion would be to seek professional marriage counseling help right away. By the sounds of it, things aren't getting… better over time. Just remember, the toughest part is making the call. ( Full Answer )
It depends on how much you love him and know that he'll never do it again. It will take time to rebuild your marriage but if you both put the hard work into it, then the affair can just be left in the past.
You need to talk to them about what that emotional relationship means to them. Is it a crush? Because everyone gets those, even in a committed relationship. Is it something that is driving them away from you and closer to that person? If so, it needs to be addressed.... emotional relationships are a… bigger deal than physical, if its my opinion. ( Full Answer )
If your emotional needs are being met, then you can easily catch yourself if you feel you are falling into an emotional affair or that someone is trying to pull you into one. However, if they are not be met, then it is very easy and will feel natural and probably harmless.
When you got married, you made vows to each other to love and care for each other until death, or in some religions, for eternity. A spouse having an affair is a major breach of these vows. The person being cheated on will probably have feelings of betrayal along with a huge blow to their self estee…m and difficulty in being able to trust their partner again. Their first instincts when they found out may have been to ask intimate questions about their partner's affair, such as "how good was she in bed?" or "what did she do in bed that I didn't". If the partner answered these questions, this could have fuelled the imagery that is undoubtedly going on in the cheated on partner's mind, and cause them further feelings of inadequacy and betrayal and further enrage them. These are some major hurdles to overcome. Without some sort of help from a counsellor, psychologist, or at least a very emotionally intelligent and intuitive friend, a couple will find it very difficult to work through the feelings. On top of this is the reason the person who had the affair cheated in the first place. People give a myriad of reasons for cheating, from "it just happened, she seduced me", to "you weren't paying attention to me and I felt left out of your life". Though there is no reason that can excuse the behaviour, how the person felt still needs to addressed. If it isn't, then you have done nothing to prevent this behaviour from reoccurring. It's hard to work through the causal feelings of the cheater without addressing the consequential feelings of the cheated on. When couple's decide to try to save their relationship, without help, it can often be disastrous. Despite the cheated on wanting to save the relationship, he/she will often be wondering why their partner is working late, why is he/she taking so long at the store, who was calling or texting him/her. It's so hard for them to rebuild that trust. The partner who cheated will tolerate this behaviour for a while out of guilt, but it will soon start to wear on them. They will start to feel like they have to be constantly wary of their behaviour, and constantly alert that the smallest thing they do could be taken out of context. It is also quite human for someone who has been badly hurt emotionally to want to inflict that same amount of hurt on the person who hurt them. Many people who have been cheated on state that their partner can't understand just how much pain they have caused. They may behave in a way that will punish their cheating partner in an attempt to show them how much pain they have endured, though they may not be doing this consciously. So with all of these emotions going on in the cheated on person, it's hard to even address the cheaters concerns of what was wrong in their relationship in the first place. A counsellor can act as a mediator, allowing both partners to have a say, and making sure the other acknowledges what is said. The counsellor can help to keep emotions and imagination from running wild by getting each partner to clarify what they've said. They can help people to understand why they are feeling the way they are, and find strategies to deal with or overcome those feelings. They can give couples tools for rebuilding trust in their relationship. It will never be an instant fix, but counselling is definitely a good idea if you both really want to save your marriage after an affair. ( Full Answer )
Yes if you really want your relationship to work and listen to the advice you are given.
The real danger of a spouse's emotional affair is that often the spouse emotionally cheating does not feel they can come to their married spouse and talk out any problems and there is a huge void of good communication skills. Everyone has marriage problems and the two people in the marriage should b…e mature enough to discuss anything they are not happy about so they can strengthen their marriage and if this doesn't happen then one of the spouses will often go to the opposite sex to get their slant on the problem at hand and emotions run high and this can lead to a sexual relationship. ( Full Answer )
Yes, when a spouse has been cheated on they are emotionally confused; deeply hurt; lose of trust and anger. To have another affair with someone else breaks the bond of trust that was in the marriage vows and most married couples try to make an effort to be honest with each other, but, unfortunately …this idea of honesty seems to be fading quickly by the high statistics of cheating spouses, but a small percentage do make it through a long marriage without either having an affair. ( Full Answer )
Men, in their twisted way of thinking, feel that since they are not actually engaging in the act of sex that they are not cheating or hurting their marriage. These men are seeking an ego boost & attention outside of the marriage. While the husband may not have intentions of cheating, the other woman… may feel differently. The more they share "emotions", the closer the relationship could become. If this is your husband, you need to end this emotional affair in a way that allows your husband to know that you are his Emotional Rock! If all else fails, maybe you need to have a talk with this other woman. This is a delicate subject, so proceed with caution. I wish you all the best! ( Full Answer )
There is no law that expects a spouse to stay in a marriage where their spouse has cheated just because they have children. However, if this is the first time the one spouse has cheated it is wise to realize that 'to err is human' and worth seeing a marriage counselor before deciding to end the marr…iage. If two people really do not love each other then they will inevitably not get along; not trust their spouse;; arguments and frustration could break out and this does not make for a good environment for children. ( Full Answer )
No. It will never be the same. The element of trust has been broken and you will always wonder if he/she is cheating or having an affair.
In the case of a woman, she will pay more attention to her affair than her actual spouse because of lack of activity with that spouse. In an affair, she will atleast have more activity to cater to her excessive hormones that have built up due to inactivity (activity being a way to "burn them off" no…t always s*x though). If another man is giving more attention to her, she will (of course) in return, give more attention to the affair. A similar thing will happen with a man. The affair spikes his "senses" more than his current spouse does and so that will build up the man's hormones and so on... By the way, affairs are a very bad idea and I would never recommend it to anyone, because if you ever decide to tie the knot with your affair, the whole thing starts over again. Even if you don't though, you will still get caught! So just don't do it! If you trust this anwer, please say so! ( Full Answer )
Emotional affairs are the most difficult to overcome. Your spouse may say they have ended the emotional affair, but may still think of that person and since each individual has the ability to their own private thoughts there is no way the other spouse can know for sure if their spouse is truly over …the emotional affair. The good thing that can come out of it is people who have emotional affairs are missing something in their marriage (perhaps don't feel they can go to their spouse to communicate as to their wants or needs without an argument ensuing) so they rely often on the opposite sex to discuss their problems. Women are most often more open to help out a male or female friend whereas men quite often do not discuss their problems with their male friends or perhaps a family member. Once the spouse talks to the female (or male counterpart) as a friend and feels secure this can quite often be misconstrued for love or, it fills the spouse's needs that are not available to them in their marriage. The other spouse should sit down and start communicating with their spouse without a heated argument and both parties should listen to each others feelings and to come to some point in their problems so they can resolve them. If the matter is a serious one and they can't seem to resolve it then seeing a marriage counselor can help only if the two spouses are in full agreement. ( Full Answer )