Asked in Relationships
I'm soon to be 22 in October and never did have a boyfriend before and I just keep on getting hurt all the time. Is something wrong with me?
July 12, 2009 5:15AM
I'm going to go out on a limb and say that you fall for boys too hard and too fast. You are probably a very emotional person and that's why. There is nothing wrong with you, if the above statements are true accept that you allow people to take advantage of your sensitive nature. You may give and give and give and get little in return and think that is ok. It's not! Don't let them use you any more. You are a good person, who deserves a good relationship. Unfortunately for people like us, we have to work harder at taking a step back and slowing down our emotions. First accept that you are going to get hurt once in awhile. That's part of life, but you never let it get you down. Get back up and try again. I've found that the best way, for me was to find some hobbies that I can devote time and energy to. Then my total and complete focus is spread out a little instead of on one person. To get the whole relationship thing right, I had to force myself not to do things that the guy may have considered smothering. Things like saying I love you on the second date, or anytime before he says it. Do this by saying it in your head, but not out loud. Avoid calling him. I did this by calling once and then not calling him again until after he called me. back and forth. When I got the urge to call him, I wrote a letter instead and threw it away. Actually, I did a lot of things like that. I don't believe that he ever noticed, but I kinda took turns with him doing things. I would go see him and not go back until he came to see me and so on. Don't worry. The right guy will come along.