Asked in Teen Dating
Teen Dating

I have been spending time with a younger girl who is insecure and who likes me but when we get close emotionally she backs off What can I do to help her relax feel safe?

Answer

Wiki User
08/06/2008

The very human temptation that you have probably felt is to occasionally 'test the waters' by intentionally going to that 'emotionally close' place and watch for her reaction. If you are doing that, it's probably not helpful; you may be reinforcing whatever reactions she has. Just be friends without judging her reactions or what you perceive as her insecurity. Just be there. Relaxation and feelings of safety come over time, and your patience and openness will really pay off if you can stay with it.