Why would a married man stop talking to his mistress after he gets caught cheating but yet says he wants to talk to her but can't right now has stuff going on at home?

Answer 1

They clearly stop talking to the mistress because they feel the need to get closer to their wives & make up for it. Even though they shouldn't have been cheating in the first place, it's best if they don't talk to the mistress. That would be awful if the wife were to find out that they still talked.

ANSWER:

The big answer is right in front of you, " got caught" Did you think that the two of you can stay friends after the affair the two of you did. But let say that this married man didn't stop talking to you while he is making amends to his wife, you will become his " Friend with benefit" And if every time the two of you meet, he might think what the two of you had together. What you need to do is leave him alone, let him correct all the bad things he did to his wife. Maybe you can ask your self this, what did this woman did to me that I help his husband ruin her life?

From there on you can see the pain that you gave to his wife. You can't even say it wasn't you that started it.

Answer 2

They don't, they are lying, they are just keeping their heads down for as long as the storm lasts. they would not have jumped into bed wit h another woman in the first place if they felt that way.

ANSWER:

Let me just say this- from my past experience when my husband stop talking to his mistress it didn't made us closer but he found out what really the problem of our marriage. But maybe there are some couple that have that emotion but I doubt it.

Answer 3

Perhaps he is trying to break it fully off with you gently. Or perhaps he wants you on a string so he can have some more fun with you later. As he was caught, and did not take that opportunity to leave his wife and be with the mistress, that should tell the mistress that he'll never leave his wife.

Answer 4

Nothing prevents a man from feeling lust toward people with whom he does not speak.

When he looks, the man's primal urges are stirring. He is still physically attracted to his ex mistress. It is all very Freudian. His Id is in overdrive. However, he has a rational side of his personality that knows that his behavior is wrong and self destructive. He will destroy his marriage if he actions his primal urge. It is the classic image of the little devil on one shoulder and the little angel on the other. He has to deny and/or suppress these urges. At the very least he has to keep them within the boundaries of look but don't touch or look but do not engage. It is frustrating and confusing for all involved but it is what it is.

Answer 5

It seems he is trying hard to save his marriage.

And it is a better way if two have been intimate before.

ANSWER:

It's a lot different what they had before. You used to be friends, good friends who can talk about anything to everything. Exchange comment about anything that can come up with the conversation. The two of you become comfortable to each others and for some odd reason every time the two of you is not talking, you both missed each others company. The two of you cross the line and become more than friends. You let this married man become dependant on you and you didn't care if his married and a wife who didn't have no idea of what's going on behind her back.

Unfortunately the affair was discovered, and now this man needs to fix all the mistakes of what he did to his wife. So why are you wondering why he stop talking to you. You help him ruined the bond of friendship, by becoming his friend with benefit. I think this is enough to make someone stop contacting you. Why don't you leave him alone so he can rebuild what he needs to rebuild if his wife still want to stay married to him.