If an 18- and 17-year-old have been dating almost 5 months and know they're meant for each other should they wait more than a year to get married?

Answer 1

It's not at all age for the marriage.Marriage is not the togetherness of the body.U can still wait.First u know what is life know what's is happening in surrounding.Dating for 5 months means nothing.Please realise the facts and then marry.But never at this age.

I'd suggest waiting at least 3-4 more years before making such a serious committment. Being so young, you may change your minds about educational/career plans, or one of you may have to relocte for better opportunities.

Love can be a very heady, emotional experience. But a real relationship is one that has lasted for several years, where there is no pressure to rush to make further committments. If you truly love each other and want to share a future together, waiting another few years should not hinder you.

That is just about the same age as my husband and I were when we got married - he had just turned 19, and I was 18.We had only *known* each other for 7 months when we got married (3 months after I *graduated* from high school.)We've been together 18 years.

I'm not recommending getting married so young, but I know that it can work. But you've got to keep in mind that the statistics are against you. During the course of our marriage, nearly every one of our friends and siblings have married and divorced at least once.Marriage can be hard. The first few years weren't easy, money was tight until my husband found a good job.We waited almost 10 years before we decided to have kids. We had had plenty of time to do things and just be a couple. We owned a business and a home. We had a good income. But having children is stressful, no matter your status quo. We've fought, been tempted to cheat, gotten bored and fed up with each other. We've had times when didn't particularly like each other. But marriage is "for better, or worse." And we have always been able to work things out. We both firmly believe that getting a divorce is too easy today and even acceptable today.It's an easy out. Approach marriage as the lifetime commitment it is meant to be.

Some things to consider, please:Can you imagine the two of you still together at 30? How about 50 or 70?

Do you both want kids? How many? When? What happens if you get a little 'surprise' before you are ready?

Are you secure? I mean, do you get jealous if your partner just looks at someone of the opposite sex? Get over it now if you're going to get married, it'll make life easier.You are both very young. Can you imagine living with, sleeping next to, making love to *one* person for the rest of your lives?

Are you both going to finish high school? Please do. What about college? What do you want to do to earn a living? Can you realistically expect to get a good job, to have a career, to earn enough money to live comfortably and still be able to save for retirement and college for your children?

Imagine being a single parent trying to make do, to scrape together enough money for school clothes or orthodontist bills; or only getting to see your kids part-time. How about having to make child support payments when you barely make enough money to feed and clothe yourself? Or knowing your children are being raised by another man or woman because one of you remarried? It's not pleasant to think about, but this is divorce and/or divorce when you can't get a well-paying job because you didn't finish school.

Do you have any "issues" as a couple? What if he wants to spend more time with his buddies than she would like? And if he doesn't like the way she spends money? Stereotypical examples, I know. But there is a reason they became stereotypes. If you don't have any issues, anything that the two of you disagree about, argue about...you don't know each other well enough to be thinking about marriage. Really. And if you do have points of disagreement, don't think that getting married will change anything. Try to work them out first if you can. If not, then agree to disagree and let them go before well before the wedding.

I could go on and on. But I won't.Just think about these things, please. And be honest with yourself!

If you are really in love, you won't mind the idea of waiting a little while. And love is NOT enough.

Love,Patience,Honesty, Trust, Forgiveness (and the ability to forget or, at least, to overlook),Respect,Compromise,Sacrifice,Selflessness,Communication

I'm sure you see the theme here, yes?

Choose Wisely and Good Luck.

"You have to kiss a few toads before you find your prince"

Ill explain what this means, ill assume that you are familiar with the fairytale and that it was a frog that turned into a prince.

So unsuitable partners are toads that can never become princes.

Frogs are your princes to be but don't they look a lot like toads.

Going back to the proverb you can see that what it is saying is that you have to have had bad relationships for you realise when you are in a good one.

Im not recomending that dumping your present boyfriend is a good idea but if you don't have the experience to spot a frog you wont know you've got a toad either. So be cautios about making such big decision, getting married this younge often leaves people wondering if what they have is true love.

5 months isn't long enough, and no one is 'made for' anyone else. They still have plenty of time to figure things out. They should wait another year or so to make sure they're ready.