If an ex mistress asked the married man she had affairs with how hes making out at home n he says its going n she says well thats good would he b impressed when b4 she told him she hopes they break up?

Unfortunately this man is in a mess for what the two of you did. Being kind and caring will not help him to put his life together after his affair with you. I know you meant well and you care but the help you can give to this man is leave him alone so he can think and rebuild his marriage from the ground up. This is a good lesson to both of you, thinking about his needs and yours did ruined and hurt lots of people. Make this your own lesson and learn that getting involve with a married man has consequences.