If someone tells you they love you on your first date are they putting the cart before the horse or cutting through the red tape?

Whatever you might call it, exlaiming "love" on a first date is excessive to say the least. It's like visiting the U.S.A., seeing the White House for the first time and exclaiming 'I love America!' This sort of enthousiasm betrays a lie. How much can he possibly know about you? If I were you, I would question him about this statement. Ask him to give you an explanation of what it is about you that makes him feel that he "loves you." The details of his explanation matter, for it is in being alike, in terms of what you want to get out of life, that really matters. For "love" is but a Hollywood slogan, a description of a visceral - instinctive - momentary feeling, nothing that you can built a wothwhile relationship on. Read more about relationships in Meyer's "Marriages, Shack-ups and Other Disasters."