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If you are off birth control and you think you are pregnant what should you do?
September 01, 2012 3:25PM
I would start with a home pregnancy test to see if you are pregnant. If the test is negative and your cycle appears to be settling into normal, it was a false alarm and you can take a deep breath of relief.
If you are pregnant, you need to figure out several things. First, who is the father of the baby? Hopefully this is easy to determine, but that is not always the case. If the father can be located and there is no safety risk to you, he should be notified as you are now pregnant with your and his child. Second, you need to take a hard, realistic look at whether or not you want to carry this child to term. In the United States, abortion prior to 20 weeks of gestation is generally legal with some restrictions; after 20 weeks the restrictions increase dramatically so this isn't a decision to put off.
There are serious moral, religious and ethical questions that no one but you, in consultation with your family, the baby's father and your religious organization (if applicable) can answer regarding whether or not abortion is even an option. Also, if abortion is an option that doesn't mean it's the option you have to take; you can also find adoptive parents or choose to raise the child yourself.
I would strongly suggest, if you are pregnant, that you talk confidentially with a counselor or other trusted adult/friend/family member. An unexpected pregnancy can throw your entire life into a whirlwind and having someone to talk to about it can make the process a lot less scary. Regardless of the decisions you make, you are the one who will have to live with them.