Is it normal for a father to hate his first son?

Answer 1

"You can't keep old bulls and young bulls in the same pasture", John Seabrook says in his book Flash of Genius. Equally as true in the human arena as it is in the animal kingdom, fathers and sons do not thrive when living together beyond the child's adolescence. Some fathers submit to their sons to ensure a peaceful co-habitation but if this is done, the father has sacrificed his manhood for the sake of peace and harmony--perhaps at the behest of the spouse. In such cases, the desire to please the spouse is greater than the father's need to preserve the heirarchy of age within the family unit. Much more common is the separation of youth from the older generation(s) upon reaching adolesence. Most fathers accept this physical separation and departure and many welcome and even encourage it. This departure is oftentimes against the expressed or unexpressed desires of the mother. The question of why some fathers hate their sons is best answered thus. To a lesser or greater degree, all fathers hate their sons. The reasons are many but include; 1. Knowledge, whether real or suspected, that the biological link is not established, i.e. another male fathered the son. Although in these cases the 'foster father' may perform all the duties and expectations of a biological father, any feelings of devotion to the adopted child rarely overcome the surpressed anger at the intrusion of another male into the family unit. 2. Acts performed by the son during childhood and beyond, oftentimes long forgotten by the offspring, that have offended the father deeply will not be forgotton by him and the entire history will accumulate cumulatively in intensity as such events occur. This despise will be most pronounced in the father when he himself has experienced a respect for his own father and/or where he has achieved greater success in his life than his own father achieved (and can therfore accept him as inferior)--even when that superiority was as a result of a more priviliged upbringing and education than his own father experienced. 3. The father's own life experiences have resulted in an inability to show compassion and love toward any other life form. Hardship, extreme competition experienced during the formative years and/or violence visited upon the father during his own childhood can result in a father who demonstrates little affection (hugs and passing on life's lessons to his child, a dislike of owning pets, etc.). Individuals in this category often demonstrate extreme selfishness, an abnormal ability to disregard the feelings of others and a high degree of competitiveness. It should be noted that these are personality traits that often are demonstrated by leaders in our society (politicians, CEO's and the like). 4. Jealousy at the attention granted to the son by the mother. Some males experience extreme shock when the full attention of the female, previously devoted to him, is diverted totally or in large part to the new born son. It should be noted that this emotion is not generally replicated in the birth of a daughter to whom his biological feelings will be of protection and caring. Thus, and in feelings not dissimiliar to those described in 1. above, another male has entered the circle and is perceived as a rival and a potential threat. These feelings can again be cumulative even into later life, particularily when the offspring achieves an economic status superior to that of the father. It should be noted that the hatred felt by fathers is most often unexpressed in open and frank language. Rather, the hatred is demonstrated in varying degrees of intensity and often by persistent disagreement with the political, social and religious beliefs of the son.

Answer 2

It is not usual for a father to hate any son, however, there are sometime reasons for hate to develop later in life.

Answer 3

There is really no reason to it was your child you put them on to this Earth if you can't handle it then you shouldn't have had them in the first place

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