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Yes, it is normal. And I am glad to hear that you've never done anything with any of these infatuations. It takes a strong person to resist temptation. So many people these days take their marriage vows far too lightly.

I've been married for almost 20 years and I find myself attracted to some cute younger guy quite often.

Years ago, my husband and I came up with an unconventional solution for dealing with temptation. It has worked for us, but I certainly won't/can't recommend it for everyone.

We decided that the main reason other men or women are tempting is because they are 'forbidden fruit.'And it seems to be human nature to want what we can't have. So we decided to always be honest with each other, first of all. Deception and sneaking aroung break trust, which is hard to regain once lost. We discuss our little 'crushes' openly - like what exactly attracts you to this person, etc. We agreed a long time ago, that if either of us felt tempted to cheat, to tell the other one about it and we'd discuss having a threesome with this person.

I know! Hear me out before calling us immoral or perverted or whatever.

Since we made this agreement, we've talked about different people, and shared fantasies, but neither one of us has ever pursued the threesome option. I seems that - for us anyway - just knowing that the possibility of having our 'crush' exists takes the edge off of the temptation; makes the 'forbidden fruit' a little less forbidden, therefore a little less seductive. (It doesn't hurt that we are both heterosexual, and neither of us relishes a 3some with a member of the same sex!!)

And the resulting fantasies haven't hurt our sex life at all. ;)

Like I said, this solution is definitely not for everyone, in fact, I can easily see how it could backfire. But it's worked for us. We don't get jealous or suspicious of each other, we communicate well, and we don't mind if the other one looks at someone else because we know we can trust each other. In fact, we tease/kid each other by pointing people we think the other one might like.

We've had friends - even siblings - tell us that they are envious of our relationship; that they wish they could have a relationship as good and stable as ours. Sounds ironic, doesn't it?

Nevertheless, as so many men like to point out, you are married, not dead.

Look and fantasize all you want, but don't touch. And if the temptation starts to get to be too much...stop, just for a moment and consider how you would feel if the situation were reversed, if it was your husband who was thinking about cheating. Wouldn't feel too good, eh?

This is a problem that's cause goes back to our earliest ancestors. At different times during your cycle you will be attracted to different types of men. Most of the time you will be attracted to your long term partner, it is likely that he wont have huge muscles or a thick brow. This is an indication that there is a fair amount of the female hormone "eastrogen" in his blood. This means that he should be more enclined to monogomy and generaly take better care of you (important to pregnant cavewomen). When you are approaching your period you will find men with more testosterone (male hormone) much more attractive as they should be more fertile and will have a better chance of giving you a child (cavewomans last chance of getting pregnant that cycle).Interestingly at this point in your cycle you are more enclined to showing a bit of flesh when picking your clothes.

Anyway all completely natural, prewired into your brain and completely out of your control (doesnt mean your husband would like to hear about it though lol)

I have been happily married for nine years and still have great sex with my husband. I love him more than anything and would never cheat on him. But there is a part of me that is curious about how it would feel to have sexual intercourse with other men. At first I felt guilty about having fantasies. But now I realize that fantasizing about other men can be a safe and healthy way to explore your lustful feelings without cheating.

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Um.. normal? Perhaps. Right? No it is totally not. That's what is known as a mental affair. Jesus the Christ said that to look on a woman with lust in your heart is the same as adultery. The bottom line is, this is something that must be addressed pronto. If not addressed and corrected, it will lead to marital problems and ultimately divorce.

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It is very normal

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