My gf has started talking to this guy now for like hours on end and she says they talk about our relationship an we do talk on the phone a lotso i dont know what she really wants Whats up with this?

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talking on the phone a lot and having a real physical relationship (not meaning sex but in person relationship doing things together and seeing each other on dates) are two different things. if you and your girlfriend speak mostly on the phone but don't do much of anything else, it's hard to say if that's a relationship. maybe you two should start going on dates more and doing fun things together. but as far as her talking to another guy for hours- about your own relationship with her- that is a form of cheating, called "emotional cheating" which means someone confides in someone else of the opposite sex about emotional matters concerning their current relationship with their boyfriend/girlfriend. these are things that should be discussed between the two in the relationship not with someone else. this could lead to physical cheating because he or she is vulnerable and could feel a connection with the other person since he or she is being there for them. be careful. I would tell her that you don't appreciate what she is doing. you should ask her what she wants out of your's and her's relationship. maybe she is talking to this other guy because she is not happy with her relationship with you- going back to you talking on the phone a lot with her- maybe she wants more than just phone conversations. again make an attempt to start going out on dates more.