Should a women feel loved when her husband tells her that his family comes before her and her children?

Answer 1

I don't know the whole situation, but this is a common problem. If you are trying to keep him more to yourself and not sharing your lives with his family then he has a point. If you aren't like this and he tells you that his family comes before you and the children, you must have a talk with him. If he refuses to discuss this, then temporarily pack his bag and send him back to his family until he gets the idea. Once you put a ring on a woman's finger (same goes for the wife) then you are connected to two families and you must share to some degree, but once married it means that your wife comes first and of course your children, then your family. Stand up for your rights. Try to work it out, but if he won't budge on this issue he is not respecting you and any love you may have for him could quickly fade and it could also be very hard on the children. Good luck Merry Christmas Marcy Family does come first. His wife and children, that is. After marriage, you are no longer "cleaved" to your parents. Every decision that is made in your home is between you and him. If you have to spend every holiday with his family, as I did, and did not want to, you need to tell him so. Putting his family first is not an option. Causes alot of resentment for you and eventually will cause much unrest in the marriage. He should get some counseling regarding this issue and if he chooses not to, he does need to pack his bags and go live with his family for awhile. Good luck to you. It is hard, but you need to deal with this issue quickly, as it will never get better, unless some action is taken. That can be hard, but ask God for guidance and help. Have been in your same shoes. God Bless, Peggy