No, don't empower them anymore than they are, in their own
minds. If you fear violence, take along some friends so you are
safer and have those camera's on cell phones running so you can
document the situation just in case. Let the narcissist know your
recording for legal reasons.Why would you want to blame yourself
for this? Sounds like the narcissist got in your mind. People
everyday break up for funda"mental" reasons, why should this be any
different. Letting the person know, in this case, probably wont
come as a big surprise, as Im sure they heard it before. Good luck
and stay safe.
you shouldn't pretend anything because if they broke up with you
then basically its their damn fault for missing out on a good thing
don't be up set or try to look for a reason to have a rage. let
alone try to avoid one dat has no ground to stand on. don't worry
about that narcissist (think) "you must not know bout me, you must
not know bout me I can have another you in a minute you best friend
will be here in a minute there is too many smart good looking
people who can handle being in a real relationship that you can
find, have, or get. Hommie don't let them control your emotions be
you and do you Babe. SMILE...
If pretending will get you out of the relationship without being
subjected to abuse and rage, then PRETEND!
Just get out. You owe him no explanation.
Here is the fundamental difference: You are human and he is