Should you tell your husband you've been cheating on him if you intend to end the affair?

Answer 1

Absoulutely, you may think he does not know, but trust me he does, even if he just thinks 'somethings not been right', he knows, if you suddenly now give him some attention ect again he will pick up on that and although he will be happy about the attention he will realise that there has been another 'sea-change', this will lead to a confirmation of significant problems, your communication will suffer and the marriage will die a slow painful death, you are kidding your self if you think that you can have an affair withought consequences, no matter the reason for the affair, if you still want to be with your husband then end the affair and be brave enough to come clean, if not then be a decent human being and let him out of his misery, with an explanation so that you don't leave him with emotional scarring, be brave!!!

Answerif you come clean, you treat him with dignity and respect by giving him the choice to make his own decision of whether he wants to stay with you or not. you run the risk of losing him, but if you don't come clean, you're kind of being manipulative and no one deserves to be manipulated. is he the kind of person who would WANT the truth?

ANSWER!!!!!

I cheated on my husband, back before we were married and I came clean...it was with an ex and it was a one time thing and i left the choice to stay or go in his hands and not ripped it from him as a selfish person would. He chose to stay, he respected and appreciated that i told him the truth and we got married! so sometimes these things work out.

Another thing though is once again i am cheating "well having an affair" but my "mistress" as its called is his brother.

It depends on the situation. that is one circumstance that i have not told him about. choice is yours. make it the way you see fit. personally I believe that "depending on the situation" if you end it, make right with a higher being "if you have one and are not atheist" and you treat your spouse good here on out...then you make peace with yourself and those you have harmed . that it wouldn't matter what you had done, it matters if your still doing it.

God bless.

Answer 2

This is a tough one because I always go by "honesty is the best policy." This is something you have to decide within yourself. By doing so your husband would certainly be hurt, but he'd be able to trust you more in the future (should he decide to stay in the marriage), but it's possible he may walk away from the marriage. Cheating is the worse thing you can do to your mate. It's not only cheating, but it involves lying, deceit and you've basically made a fool of him. That would hurt anyone. You did the cheating, you should be honest! Instead of just blurting out you cheated, take a few days and go over why you cheated. Although I don't believe there is any excuse for cheating (the person just wants their cake and eat it too) to others they may feel alone, that their husband has forgotten them by working all the time or out with his friends and not including you. There could be many more reasons. Express yourself to him and then tell him you've learned from this and that you should have communicated your feelings to him instead of cheating and realize you didn't give him a chance for the both of you to communicate and that people make mistakes and you did make a big mistake. If you don't love him (grown apart) then I wouldn't even bother to tell him you cheated, but do the right thing and at least ask for a separation (this gives you both time to lick your wounds, think about your relationship and be sure that divorce is what you want.)

Answer 3

ANSWER:

If you desire you can but how will you feel if they ask you lots of questions about why your husband cheat on you. Some people will think that you are the cause of your husband's affair, like his not getting his needs anymore from you, or you don't make time for him. Before you do this think it through and really decide who will gain if you tell friends what's going on in your private life.

When the man I marry had love affair with the woman he met on a dating site, he tells that it was me who's mean, no time, everything he can think of to gain someones affection, he did, but guess what it was I who never had the love, affection, passion that I long for from him and his friends and family thought I was the mean one, so when I discovered his affairs, I said goodbye, no second or third chance. Now I'm happy with my kids...

Answer 4

yes

i think you should , if not then they may find out in the future and be 10x more upset.

Answer 5

"Hi honey. How was your day? By the way, I've been doing your best friend."

Answer 6

bitc* u crazy

Answer 7

DIVORCE