What are the characteristics of an abusive man?

Answer 1

Emotional abusers know you more than you know yourself. they know how to control you, and they make you feel low as if its your mistake and if it's your fault. Almost all emotional abusive relationships start off with a very good start making you feel as a king or a queen. Remember, in a healthy relationship, your negatives are also discussed. That's normal in a healthy relationship. You can trust each other, and understand each others' negatives and positives.

Emotional abusers tell you that your wrong- always- and they blame you... even for their temper. It's all your mistake. Here is some examples of emotional relationship abuse::

"ITS YOU WHO LEFT ME

I HAVE LEARNED TO LIVE WITHOUT YOU....

WE CANNOT CLAP WITH ONE HAND.....

PAST IS PAST...

IF THERE IS NO TODAY THERE IS ALWAYS TOMORROW"

So be prepared to face the tomorrow with abuse if your still in such a relationship.

What happens and what you can do:

Your sense of self worth goes down. You feel dejected with this person. You feel you need to CHANGE him/her to make them better, and rid them of "picking" or "bullying" you. It's not just a temper tantrum, it won't go away. You may feel like your losing your balance, but that may be at the later stages. You're so much into that abuse that you loose yourself and you feel like you love this person so much that you won't leave. You want to stand by them and hope very hard for a change in mood... Even if you know you're being emotionally robbed.

There's a lot of things you can do. For relationship abuse, it's much easier to just end the relationship. Get out, know your worth, don't let him/her rule your emotions. It's not worth it. There will be someone there, whether it be friend or family. But if family is the one emotionally abusing you, it's much harder. I'm in such a situation, but I'm too young to do anything. So the only advice I can give you on family emotional abuse is to try to bear with it, maybe attempt to have a normal, calmed conversation about the yelling and vulgar words.

If you cannot love yourself, How can anyone else love you?

Healthy relationships have very strong emotional bonding.

You don't need to make artificial/physical love like;

-kissing

-hugging

-sexual intercourse

-holding hands

A relationship based on these, with no emotional feeling, is not a real one.

A healthy emotional relationship will eventually turn out to those, without feeling pressured about anything.

So if your in a relationship where you're being forced for physical and also feeling emotionally drained...

I would suggest to get rid of the relationship. It's not real and you don't need to prove you're love with these.

Don't feel emotionally drained.

You are yourself.

You're worth just as much as they are.

Answer 2

Mental abuse: when the abusive person would say "I love you", call you something mean (such as a name), say something sweet and then trash you again.

Physical abuse: touching in an abusive manner (obviously).

Verbal abuse: very similar to mental abuse.

Answer 3

Here are some warning signs: jealous, possessive, controlling, sexually dominant, grew up in domestic violence situation, poor work history, heavy drinker, and "old fashioned" attitudes about gender roles