There are free services offered at many churchs and I have heard being on whats called a sliding scale. In other words, on ones ability to pay. The main concern is the abuser get help and get it fast. Like NOW!!
Is there hope that an abuser can change and you can still have a good marriage?
Not much hope.
Your abuser ex husband can be change actitud when he remarried and be a good man?
yES; There is nothing you cannot cure yourself of when you ADMIT YOU HAVE A PROBLEM. A man or woman CAN CHANGE with counseling, a lot of self discipline, and CONSTANT WORK. Yes, men AND women, with help and counseling, CAN remarry and correct themselves. ...
Asked in Credit and Debt Counseling
Where can one get some consumer credit counseling?
One can get some consumer credit counseling from various sources online and offline. Some websites online where one can get counseling are Consumer Credit, No More Debts and Step Change. ...
Can an abuser ever change?
There are a very few that might fall through the cracks, but it's rare. Abusers love what they do because they love the control they have. They are basically grown up bullies! So, there is no way they are apt to go for counseling to straighten themselves out, because an abuser doesn't like taking orders from ANYONE! Marcy ...
Can dealing with childhood abandonment issues through therapy help narcissists improve?
Absolutely. Of course, not all abusers will or can change. Be careful not to revel in what may be a false hope. Dealing with issues in childhood which may have made the abuser abusive will be very helpful, but could also be traumatic for the abuser. The abuser often has trouble dealing with emotions, and so could become aggressive and violent throughout this part of counseling. ...
Can a mental abuser really see the error of his ways and put things right?
Answer Sometimes they can and sometimes they can't. Unless they is some mental illness going on, people can change if they want to. Certainly a mental abuser who is not mentally ill will figure it out when he or she gets enough negative feedback/responses from others. Usually when someone is a mental abuser they need professional counseling to correct the problem. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. If the person thinks what he or she is doing is okay or they...
How do you stop a manipulator?
Well, it depends what you want to stop them from doing. If you want them to stop manipulating, than they have to be prepared to change and take lots of counseling. Of course, counseling is not enough on its own. The manipulator must be willing to take the class seriously, and not try to simply manipulate the counselor. It can be difficult to tell what the abuser is doing, and stopping them is sometimes impossible. Do not get your hopes up...
If you exposed your abusers abuse will he abuse his next victim?
No matter whether you expose it or not, he will probably abuse his next victim anyway. An abuser finds it difficult to imagine not abusing another, as their abuse reassures them of their control. Abusers feel a need to exert control in order to compensate for a childhood which they had no control over. In some ways, we should pity them; but they cannot all be helped. An abuser can only change if they have the desire to change, and are...
What are the odds of recovery for a spouse abuser that gets counseling?
Statistically, the odds of an abuser changing are low. However, there are key indicators you can watch for in a person who is taking an honest interest in changing their abusive behavior: 1) They acknowledge that they are abusive, and that it is their responsibility, and not the fault of anyone else that they are they way they are. 2) They admit that they WANT to change, and that they know the process of change is very difficult 3) They undergo a violence/abuse...
Can therapy help an abuser?
Statistically, the odds of an abuser changing are low. However, there are key indicators you can watch for in a person who is taking an honest interest in changing their abusive behavior: 1) They acknolwedge that they are abusive, and that it is their responsibility, and not the fault of anyone else that they are they way they are. 2) They admit that they WANT to change and that they know the process of change is very difficult 3) They undergo a violence/abuse assessment,...
How can you tell an abuser HE IS AN Abuser?
Unfortunately, if they don't think that they are, you won't be able to convince them. Try to reason with them if you can about how their abuse hurts others. Try to tell them that they can change their ways and get help if they want to. ...
What should you do if you are married to a domestic abuser and have a 7 year old daughter that the abuser has spread lies about?
Your best action is to leave him. He's not going to change. Seek legal advice and get away. ...
Asked in Marriage and Relationship Counseling
Can an abuser change when he sees he has a problem and is willing to get counseling to work on his marriage and his anger?
No, because, serial abusers will never change. I am currently in the same situation. I am married and not even domestic violent classes help my soon to be ex-husband. I think age has alot to do with it too because, he is 49 years old. Depending on the personal data and the psychodynamic profile of the abuser, his cultural and social background, age, profession, level of education, and extent of motivation to preserve the relationship. Some busers can definitely be helped and...
Are abusers aware of their behavior?
Some of them are not aware of their behavior at all. Still some are. If you are a victim of abuse you can share your feelings with your abuser when the abuse subside, but if they feel as though they arn't at fault, they won't change. The abuser would have to want to change their abusive behavior. ...
Asked in Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence, Global Warming, Climatology and Climate Changes
Can an abuser get help and change?
That really depends. A sociopath is generally regarded as unchangeable due to a lack of a conscience and normal emotions. Every one of their acts is designed for gaining further control. They have only victims and accomplices, rather than friends and enemies. Some abusers can change with counseling, and learning to understand why they act the way they do. Unfortunately most don't want to change, and there is little incentive for them to do so. ...
Was your abuser really that bad if you feel worse without him?
Abusers are bad. Period. It is common for someone who has been abused to feel lonely when the abuser becomes absent, but it is because of the stress of change. If you feel yourself running back to your abuser, get help. The situation will only escalate otherwise. ...
Will an emotional and verbal abuser ever stop abusing even in a new relationship?
Abuse stems from the abuser, not from the relationship - so a change of partner won't in itself change much (or anything). An abuser needs appropriate counselling or therapy to deal with the problem. The first step of course is for him or her to acknowledge that there is a problem and that needs attending to. I hope this is some help. All the best - Joncey ...
Will non-serial abuser change if they voluntarily enroll in extensive abuse treatment programs and is fully committed to changing?
if they really want to change, they can learn to change their reactions and behaviors. it depends on the "treatment" and the underlying reasons that they are/were abusive. it is not easy to change. they would have to take responsibility for their own issues and learn different behaviors. "will" they? maybe. "can" they? maybe. "is it possible?" yes. each person is different. some will not change, others will, and do. ...
Why is it that many abuser programs stress education about abuse and confronting the abuser rather than holding the abuser accountable for his actions and forcing him to change?
I volunteer at an Abused Women's Center and there are good programs for the victim to learn what is abuse, why it's wrong, and how to get out of the relationship. It gives you the tools to be confident once again and gives the victim a chance to stand on their own two feet and actually have a life of their own (and their children if they have any.) Victims of abuse don't always realize that they have been brain-washed by...
Why do so many Abuse websites and talk shows that deal with abuse suggest that the victim get counseling when it is plain that this will just be another thing for the abuser to use against her?
If the victim hasn't left on her own, it's obvious that just telling her to leave won't make much sense. Most responsible advice tells the abuser and victim to go to counseling so that the problem can be accurately diagnosed and both parties will be able to slowly acknowledge the eventual outcome. Using that method results in far fewer problems in the long run. It may appear to be a clear problem to some people with an obvious answer, but other...
Why do abuse programs say that an abuser must want to change before they can do anything when the whole point of an ABUSER program shoud be an environment that forces abusers to change?
View it as you would a person convicted of a crime and sentenced to prison. Why has the person stopped committing the particular crime? Obviously because he is forced to be in an environment that won't allow him to rob, rape or murder. It does not mean that once he is released, he won't chose to committ the crimes he did previously. An abusive person can be locked up, but will they stop being abusive once they are released? Probably not, and...
What will help the abuser stop the cycle?
Statistically, the odds of an abuser changing are low. However, there are key indicators you can watch for in a person who is taking an honest interest in changing their abusive behavior: 1) They acknolwedge that they are abusive, and that it is their responsibility, and not the fault of anyone else that they are they way they are. 2) They admit that they WANT to change, and that they know the process of change is very difficult 3) They undergo a violence/abuse...
Why do abusive relationships exist?
It exist because the person being hurt stays in the relationship thinking the abuser will stop. Face reality this person has issues and they will not just up and change. I would advise anyone who is in an abusive relationship whether physical,emotional or verbal get out while you still can, because the abuser is not going to change magically. ...