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What could be the early childhood cause of narcissism if the narcissist is a female?

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permissive parents.


Narcissism, in both genders (although there are subtypes usually attributed to males), is essentially a psychological response to low self-esteem. The narcissist develops a coping mechanism (like believing one's accomplishments are greater than they are and feeling entitled to respect and admiration) as a way of dealing with the pain of their own perceived worthlessness. So the real question, then, concerns possible early childhood causes of low self esteem. While some aspects of permissive parenting can be related, it is very common for self esteem issues to arise from some sort of emotional abuse, physical abuse or other trauma. Personality disorders, in general, are rather dramatic, subconscous, psychological responses to abuse or perceived abuse.

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ResponseThis is a very intelligent answer given. I am wondering though that in abusive environments parents can also be overly permissive and smothering while at the same time neglecting or abusing the child in other ways. For instance a parent will mete out severe punishment for the slightest personal infraction yet provide no real discipline for the child. Social manners, completeing chores, homework, etc...

I was roomates once with a diagnosed NPD female. I was under the impression her mother was too close to her allowing too many things to pass yet not really there for her to learn right from wrong. I remember she was very upset once because her mother suspected her of lying "yet again". It was a trivial matter but she seemed more upset at having been reminded she was a liar rather the fact she had done something wrong.

She would allways get these guys and people she considered to be inferior to surround her and be "best buds" while she complained and moaned about their ineptness behind their backs. I kept my guard around her but she found a way to stab me in the back and lef t me like an empty carcass. A few months later she hovered around me again and wanted me to be her new roomate because she was tired of being alone and no one at work wanted anyting to do with her etc... . I told her I was fine where i was. She left the room and burst into tears.

I think sometimes when a close parent is overly permissive and "good" to the child that the child secretly resents not being taught right from wrong and looses sense of who he/she is. ....or maybe the mother feels guilty from some past sin and tries to make it up to the child. The child in turn must sense some kind of unatural omnipotence.

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