What do you do when your ex says he still loves you and wants you back?
It depends on a lot of things such as: the reason you all broke
up in the first place, how long you've been broken up, and if
either of you all are currently in relationship with someone
There's a reason for everything, so make sure you consider those
questions above before you give your ex an answer.
RUN FAST! RUN FAR! DON'T LOOK BACK!
This is a very difficult question. It depends on what happened
in the relationship to begin with. This has just recently happened
to me. My "ex" told me he wanted me back after I broke up with him.
I also wanted him back. He was scared of getting broken again. But
when you fight hard enough anything can happen. Now we are together
and our relationship is stronger then ever. If you chose to take
this person back make sure you want them back also. Don't jump into
anything your not sure about. If you need to think tell this person
you need time. And If they love you enough that person will
Exes are exes for a reason, he is most probably lonely and
realises what a bad mistake losing you was. If what he did in the
first place is unforgivable, don't even consider getting back with
him. But if you feel that there could be something there, then yes,
Don't go back out with him because things will still be the
same. Nothing will really change; trust me, not unless you're still
truly in love with him. He just wants you back to use you. There
are millions of guys out there, if he leaves you.
Forget him, you'll find someone much better.
Those are both true, but not always correct. My father broke up
with my Mother, and he dated a bunch of other girls until she
started dating. That is when he realized that he made a huge
mistake and still loved her. They have been happily married for 27
years. It won't ever be the same carefree relationship you had
before. It's completely up to you. Do you still love him? Do you
never want to see him again? When you answer these questions, then
you will have your answer. But if you still like them and you feel
that you could make it work I suggest you take another chance, but
it all depends on if you still love him. If you also still feel
something for him, then why not. Really the only thing that you can
do is ask yourself if you miss him. And if not, then don't even
think of going back to him. It wouldn't be worth the pain you once
went through. So it just comes down to if you miss him go back to
him. If you don't, then forget him and move on with your life. You
have the rest of your life to find a guy who you truly love and
truly want to be with. Also think about whether or not it was a
healthy relationship. You shouldn't get back if you never were
happy with him or if he was abusive, whether physically or
verbally. But if it was just you were having small issues, then you
should see a marriage counsellor if you want to get back together
and find out how to get along. All you have to do is move on! You
have to know how you feel about him; do you still love him too?
Think about how things might go if you get back together and ask
him why does he love you? What are the things that make him love
you or is it just for sex? You need to know what you want; if he
was the one who stuffed up then you should make up your mind if you
want him or move on. You should first decide if you feel the same
way and then think about why you two broke up in the first place.
It really depends on if you still feel anything for your ex.
If you do, and you think that there might be a chance for the
relationship, then go ahead and give it another chance. If you
think about it than you should give him one more chance and if he
screws it up then move on. You should honestly just follow your
heart this is your decision and no one can really decide what you
should do but you. While we were dating he always said he loved me
with all his heart and we were gonna get married some day, and we
talked about our future non-stop. But he kissed another girl one
time and I broke up with him, but he still wants me back even
though its been 2 years. I still love him with all my heart. He
talks to other girls, to get me off his mind he says. and i would
probably date him again if i didn't have a boyfriend. But all in
all, it really depends on the reason you guys broke up. Never go
back to an ex if they've treated you awfully or physically abused
you. I've had it and now mine is being a total moron and denying it
all First of all if he's abused you in any way never go back. Now
if he wants you back and you still love him go back, if you don't
then tell him you don't feel the same way and to leave you
It depends on many factors: - the reason why you parted - if you
still love him - if you want him back... If it is my decision to
part and I don't wanna be with this guy, nothing can make me be
with him again. If I love him and our parting was just a mistake,
why not accepting the man you love back? Though in some cases it's
good to get on his nerves a bit and refuse at first - so that it
could not happen again. Okay; this happened to me too. I was dating
this guy and my ex- boyfriend told me he still loved me and wanted
to get back together. I told my best friend immediately, and she
helped me get through it. She really helped me out; she told me to
compare which one treated me better; which one talked to me more;
which one was completely comfortable around me; and that helped me
make a decision. I verbally abused my ex. I miss the good times,
the companionship, her pampering me. But I got nothing going on in
my life and were really unhappy and fought most of the time. Life
is short, this love feeling will pass. You just gotta hold onto the
emotional bars for dear life and weather out the storm. Time
doesn't heal wounds, knowledge heals wounds. The more you know,
hear and understand, the better you'll know that you're better off
Think: Do you really want to go back that way.
Once your on track it's hard to go back. You never know. What broke
you guys up in the first place might just happen again.
If you look back at the relationship, think of the good things
that it brought to your life and how enjoyable it was. Then think
of the not so great, heartbreaking, and horrible things that it has
brought upon your life. Which one overrides the other? If the bad
takes over it's most likely not a good idea to go back. You
shouldn't live with someone who will make you miserable for more
than half your life.
Are you sure that person is the one? You think they are perfect,
but could there be better? Can you see yourself together for life?
A bond and a commitment? Think ahead not just in the present or
past. Remember, you might think you've found the perfect one. But,
there are more fish in the sea than you think there are. You just
have to find the right one.
I wouldn't go back with the ex if things didn't work out the
first time then they wouldn't work out the second time. Sometimes
it does work but other times it doesn't.
Obviously he did something to make you guys break up right. He
probably realized he's an idiot and wants you back. Second chances
don't really matter because the truth is people never change. They
might stop doing something for a while but they'll always go back
to their ways. It's honestly not worth it because, chances are,
he's going to hurt you. Again!!
The questions that you need to ask are: 1. Do you want him back?
2. Do you still love him? 3. Do you think he will hurt you
OK I am a guy that has had a lot of bad relationships I think
that almost every relationship I have been has ended with either
having to deal with my girlfriends ex and of course they want to
fight because they think they still rule her and I don't know why
but they're always at their ex's side. In my most recent
relationship we had been going out for about 6 months and the ex
starts calling her again and I told her not to talk to him or I
would leave. I had that stuff happen to me too many times to have
it happen again. They all say they still want to be with me "but
they would rather be with there ex". But of course they don't say
that and I have come to realise that I will never get back with
them. Because it will never work if it didn't work the first
This exact thing happened to me. This may sound unhealthy or
something, but when we broke up, I found someone else. My ex
eventually found out and got jealous. He started talking to me and
being very nice to me again. But I found out he didn't actually
want ME, he just wanted a girlfriend. So I say DON'T FALL FOR IT!
You may just get hurt all over again.
You should first ask yourself if you still love him. And
before telling yourself that you do, make him prove to you that he
wants to be with you. If he's willing to prove it and he isn't
afraid to show you that he has changed, then you should give him
another chance. This happened with me and an ex and now we're
Married and have great communication skills.
Well, think about it and also think about why you two brokeup..
was what he did too strong for you to continue, or can you give him
another chance. But before make sure that he isn't lying and that
it comes from the heart!
It really depends on a lot of factors. The feelings you have for
him, think to whether the relationship was worth it. He is your ex
for a reason, so something obviously went wrong in the
relationship. Think to yourself, could the same thing go wrong
again? Am I willing to risk it? Was the relationship good for you,
good for your time, good for your heart? Was he worth your love?
Think of the good things about him and the bad things too. See if
the good things are worth going through the bad things, if the good
times you had are good enough to overrule the bad times. Whatever
your situation may be, don't stoop yourself to a low level, don't
get yourself back in a relationship that you don't want to be in, a
relationship that isn't worth it, or one that you know isn't good
for you. Make the right decision.
This is a very difficult dilemma you're in as of right now. My
ex wants me back as well, after I dumped him. It seems as if he
only wants me so he doesn't get teased by his friends and wants to
be popular by being the boyfriend of quote: 'one of the most
beautiful, smartest, awesome' girls in the school. I am just
ignoring his attempts. But it depends on what he did and how he
acts. Can you tell that he really means it when he says he loves
you? And is what he did to cause the breakup forgivable. And the
last but not least, actually, most vital questions are, do you want
him back? Do you still love him? Will you both be able to put love
into your relationship again. Have faith in yourself and whatever
decision you make!
Heres my little intake.
Well thats a very hard choice to make, if you still like him,
give him another chance but make sure it is not a mess about and
you are both serious about going into a relationship, things like
this can end in disaster.
Another point of view.
If you really like him you should go back with him. Whatever
happens don't listen to your friends that pressure you for doing
something wrong. It happend to me, I went back with him three
times. It was good but then I got bored.
Ask yourself questions: Do you believe that a mature
relationship and commited needs understanding of what one really
feels and want going into the relationship? Do you feel honestly
confident in your partner as a commited and self confident
individual? Has your partner ever lived alone without a partner
very long? Could your partner also be seeking a security for the
sake of not being alone? Does your "partner" need or want? Does
your partner and yourself really honestly know what you want? Do
you feel that allowing" that behavior will allow him to continue
similar patterns in the relationship if you accept that behavior
and "take him back"? Start with those questions.
I had something like this happen to me. Think about why you
broke up and see if it's worth it. Usually if you break up once, it
will happen again. The boy that I really liked cheated on me and a
year later he wouldn't leave me alone and said he wanted me back
and still loves me and always has. I don't think that the hurt is
worth it personally and you will find someone else. I'm sorry
you're going through this.
My ex and I got together in 2006 then broke up 11 months after
in 2007, we were apart until he unexpectedly come back in 2008 and
we got back together, he didnt change at all so we broke it off.
Its 2010 now and we still talk and we've both changed and its going
much better now and although we are not together at present time,
we still like each other and still have feelings for each other. If
my ex and I work again one day, it will probably be the best
decision I made because I stood by him through all his other
relationships while we were not together and we trust each other
and talk a lot more easily now.
Do what your heart tells you, ask your friends and talk about
Me and my boyfriend haven't been together very long but the
story of how we got here is amazing. We met in high school and were
on and off for 2 years then the last year we got together broke up
after a week, then started meeting up and talking about me and him.
We were talking about how i was scared of getting hurt and stuff.
I'm glad we are together now cause were closer then ever. Just
remember that if you can't go a day without thinking about him
after going out, then you miss him. If you want him get him, if not
don't. But believe me its worth it if you do.