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It should be a joint decision. Both of you need to agree otherwise the trust issues grow. Yes, the woman is the one carrying the baby, but the man is expected to be a part of it's life and a one-sided decision is going to alienate him from you and the baby. If he can't accept it right now, give him time. Maybe he'll change his mind later, but maybe he won't so don't expect everything to be the way YOU want it. Marriage means compromise. He must have a personal reason for not wanting another mans sperm in your body and having a baby by someone else. Does he also feel the same about adoption? What about using the sperm of a family member so the genes are similar? It is a personal issue, if he is unable to produce sperm, then there has to be some compromise, but don't force the issue. Seek counseling for this, he may not know how to translate his feelings on this issue. A 3rd party who is unbiased may be able to help you reach a compromise. My husband and I have been married for 3 1/2 years. In the beginning I knew he had a vasectomy and when I asked him whether he would have it reversed he stated if I met the right women. And I also asked if that didn't work would he adopt and he said yes. Well he had the reversal and now its been three years and no baby. He was very against going to a fertility expert but broke down and did go after he told me he doesn't want to raise someone else's bastard kid. The fertility expert said there are no sperm living anymore its closed over. He then talked about donor sperm and my husband asked a lot of questions ( which got my hopes up ). He know says again he doesn't want to raise someone else's kid. I explained it will be ours not someone else's. I love children so much this is hurting me but I don't know what else to do and need help. It hurts when his sisters and sisters in law say that they are pregnant. A part of me feels lied to and wants out of the marriage but I do love him and his family so much that it also hurts me inside but all I want to do is cry.

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Q: What do you do when your husband doesn't want to use donor sperm and you do?
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What to do if husband is against using donor sperm?

If there is a medical reason why your husband can not participate in intercourse then their are medical procedures in which you can get his sperm, if he has had a Vasectomy, you could always take the option of surrogacy. Of course, being in a relationship, you might want to discuss your husband's reasons why he is against using donor sperm. If you are unable to discuss the matter with him or he with you, you might want to reconsider bringing a child into a potentially dysfunctional situation. I'm sorry if that seems harsh; sometimes there is no way to soft a direct response, and the child would have no say in how his life begins.

How can i make sure my husband sperm is strong?

i want have child but my sperm not strong what need do for strong my sperm

How can you be a donor?

It depends on two factors.those factors are why do you want to be and sperm donor? are you doing it for money or are you doing it for the good of helping infertile couples? if you want to donate to a sperm bank you would have to undergo certain test and provide sperm samples when other words you would have to make a commentment to the sperm bank.if you just want to donate for free,my advice would be for you to go to your doctor and get tested for STD's and HIV.also a sperm test would need to be done to inform the recipents that you have an acceptable sperm count.

Can two girls get pregnant?

Not without sperm so a male is needed.Not from each other. They need male sperm for a baby.If they want to have a baby they can always go to a sperm bank, or find a male donor.

Who is Cathy Freeman's husband?

Cathy freemans husband doesnt want to be named! so he still remains a secret

What do you do if you feel your close friend prefers another friend's company to yours?

My husband once told this: Why would anyone want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with them?

I saved a person want to meet him my husband doesnt think its right should i meet him any way?

do what you think is right!

My husband doesnt want to work on our relationship. i dont know how to carry on with him?

break up, move on and believe it is for the better !

Your husband says he does not like you or want to be with you?

then tell him goodbye. if he doesnt want to be with you, you cant force him to change his mind. that's only gonna push him further away.

Should you have another mans baby friend is offering his sperm as a donor due to your man being unable to give you children your man is not comfortable but its the only way for your chance to be mum?

Unless your husband is totally 100% behind this method of conception, then it would not be right. You are only considering yourself and what you want. You are not taking his concerns into account. You're setting yourself up for an unhappy marriage. The idea of having a friend act as a sperm donor is probably not the best choice either. It would be better to have an anonymous donor so that you don't have the friend turning up at your door every birthday and Christmas bearing gifts for his "son". This would further rub salt in your husband's wounds.

What if your best friend is in jail and you want to support him and be there for him but you are married your husband cheated on you and he has a girlfriend but he still wants you to be there?

Hun if your husband cheated on you then i would leave him. But for your friend tell him that you are there for him always. And even if he has a gf doesnt mean he doesnt want u. Just visit him all the time, and show how much u respect him and care for him ok..

Why does your husband want to believe you are mentally ill?

because he is mentally ill and he doesnt want to be alone in his illness. you should join him and be a happy mentally ill couple :) <3

Can a married woman expect anything from a single man?

No. Because if she has kids why would she want to have anything to do with him or if she doesnt she should be commited to her husband.

What if your husband is at boot camp and you want a baby However there is no body contact aloud Can he ejaculate in a baggy and you go inject it in you with a syringe will the sperm last that long?

No the sperm will die. Wait if you can until he gets back.

How do you convince a friend to stop drinking mountain dew if he really doesnt want to stop and has built up a tolerence to it?

Tell him the fact that it reduces Sperm Count.

You don't want your ex-husband to have to pay child support how can that happen?

go to the courthouse and tell them that you want him to stop paying child support, my dad doesnt pay for my brother...

What do you do when your girlfriend says maybe to everything?

she doesnt want to do it or doesnt like what you are telling her...and doesnt want to tell you or you to know

What it means when your lover say hes not cheating but he be over his babymama house like he dont care?

He is showing that he cannot be trusted and he will not take care of you emotionally or any other way. If you want nothing but a sperm donor in your life, that's what he's got to offer. If you want a real man, one who will actually take care of you when you are sick, pay the rent when you have a baby and be there to help that child grow up, drop this boy and look for a man. Doesn't every child deserve a man as a father, not a cheating sperm donor?

How do you divorce your husband when you still love him but he is not good to you?

if your husband is not good to you then he doesnt deserve to be with you, even if you still love him. your love for him may make it a temptation for you to stay with him but you dont want to leave yourself in a dangerous situation or an unhappy marriage

How can you change your organ donor status if don't want to be a organ donor anymore?

Just don't check the box when you renew your driver's licence.

If the wife kicks the husband out of the house is it considered abandonment?

yes, if she yells at you and doesnt want you in the house.. no if she just wants you to go to the store or some other thing.

Where can you contact taka michinoku?

you cant... he doesnt know you, and probably doesnt want to happy to help (: you cant... he doesnt know you, and probably doesnt want to happy to help (:

All About Being a Sperm Donor?

Anonymous sperm donations is when a man donates sperm to a sperm bank to help a woman or a couple become pregnant. The terms of these clinics mean that the donor will not have contact with the woman or couple who use his donation and will not be provided with information about any resulting child. While the process of anonymous sperm donation sounds simple, there are many initial requirements and tests that need to be performed before a potential sperm donor can become a paid donor. Guidelines for Being a Donor While every sperm bank will have individual requirements, there are some universal guidelines that common in the industry for all sperm donors. If you are between the ages of 18-44, not adopted and have no significant conditions or illnesses, you may be considered eligible for becoming a sperm donor. Other general requirements for sperm donation include a family history that is clear of genetic diseases. Sperm banks may also want you to commit to a six-month minimum timeframe, with lab donations of 4-8 times per month. Once eligibility is determined, a candidate may come in for an initial appointment where an extensive medical history of the candidate and family is conducted, and an initial sample may be taken for testing to determine sperm count, quality and how well the sample can be frozen. Should the candidate pass the initial screening, they may come back for a second screening where a complete physical is conducted, another sperm sample obtained and blood and urine samples as well. If these samples come back clear of genetic problems, sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s) and other infectious diseases, the candidate will be cleared for regular donations. Making Money through Donating While every sperm bank will have its own fee schedule, a candidate can earn an average of $40-$45 dollars per sample. Many sperm banks hold payments for six months, as they are required to obtain another blood sample for screening. The reason for the delay is the quarantine period required during which samples cannot be released; once this quarantine period is finished, payment is finalized. If you are a healthy male looking to earn some extra money, becoming a sperm donor may be an option for you. Just be sure you meet all the qualification before applying.

How does a wife call her husband in Malayalam if she doesnt want to call him by name something that will describe her respect and love for him For Eg in Tamil woman used to call their husband Athan?

In Malayalam wife uses the word "ningal" to call her husbant

Who is nyomi banxxx's husband?

i want to be her husband