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Abusers are absolutely about control. They know every move they make and are basically artists at their trade. They know they can't control society around them so they prey on the weak such as parents, the elderly, spouses and children. A male abuser seldom has the guts to face a man one-on-one, but will induce injuries upon a defenseless woman or child. They also seem to know how to give "mental torture." Think of this: A victim of this abuser is use to either hearing cursing, yelling and they just can't please the abusive spouse no matter how hard they try. The victim may be beat up badly at times and suddenly .... silence! It's nerve-racking and the victim just never knows when the silence will end and the abuse will begin again. They are literally standing on a time bomb. An abuser is actually a very weak individual. They may have come from an abusive environment, but there are a few that are just plain mean to the bone for various reasons. There are some men (or women) that feel society hasn't given them the breaks they deserve and all their hopes and dreams of either being famous or having loads of money or even something such as losing their job escapes them and they blame everyone but themselves. Abusers seldom do well in their jobs because they are not mentally stable and have to be careful 100% of the time while at work as to how they SHOULD think and act. They are smart enough to know that the boss won't let him/her get away with their childish behavior in the workplace. This is actually harder on the abuser and by the time he/she gets home all hell breaks loose. Abusers know exactly what they are, but can't seem to grasp the idea of where to go for help. It's like a druggie or an alcoholic that first has to admit they are one, then go for the help. The abuser will blame others for the way they are and seldom seek professional help. Abusers can often grow tired of their spouse they are abusing and will leave to go onto their next victim. You would think this would be a blessing for the victim he left behind, but in fact, the victim misses the abuser because they were told how to act, think and had no control over their own lives. Now they feel deserted, don't know how to respond to the simplest of things out in society and have no idea of how to get a job so they can get back on their feet. They have had their self confidence and dignity ripped from them, and they feel ashamed. Little does the victim know that no one blames them for the trouble they are in and that there is a lot of help out there. In British Columbia the R.C.M.P. work closely with the Abused Women's Centers here and there is an Abuse Center in most American towns and obviously cities. If in doubt, just phone your local Mental Health and they will direct you to the proper help. Also little does the abuser know that he has not left a victim behind, but a very strong individual who has learned to survive through some of the worst scenarios a human should never have to go through. It takes counseling and time for the victim to see just how strong they have been and are going to remain. The abuser will never be happy in any relationship and is actually caught in his/her own web of violence and will lead a long and lonely life. What goes around comes around!

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the object for some to abuse you is to "control" you, this silent treatment is most likely a form of manipulation to control you.

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The silent treatment is a common form of abuse used by people who cannot stand to be on the receiving end of another person's self assertiveness. The silent treatment cuts the victim off from the abuser, it sends a distinctive message about how insignificant the victim is and how easy it is for the abuser to live without them. It is utilized by insecure people of weak character and poor self image who cannot keep up their end of a relationship through dialogue. It's their way or else. When you do something that displeases them you cease to exist for a certain period of time. I knew one person who doled out silent treatment punishments in increments of three month periods. We ignored him too!

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