Here we go with that wonderful label "Narcissist" yet once again. Unless a psychiatrist/psychologist has labeled this person then they could simply be an egomaniac. Perfectionists or extremely intelligent people can give off an appearance of being a narcissist. It's a tough one to figure out, but whether they are a narcissist or an egomaniac both are trouble! answer I think most of the people reading this post are fairly aquainted with the traits of a narcissist. It may take some research or a diagnosis to know for sure, but I do believe that the difference is rather obvious when you learn a bit about the disorder.
Please note that a true narcissist was an abusive cruel mean nasty person BEFORE he was diagnosed or labeled one. some of them for decades. many of them never get a diagnoes. yet their victimes still suffer. You don't absolutely positively have to have a psychiatirst diagnose an N to decide for yourself. But you should explore and study all the options. and DONT openly acuse anyoe of being a narcisssit. That can and will get you in trouble.
PS - There is nothing wonderfull about the label Narcissist.
My first N-experience was diagnosed. The psychologist explained it all to me and warned I was likely to be exposed to another one in my lifetime. Watch for signs and stay away. so when this second N came into my life, this time a coworker with quite a reputation. The signs were not so easy to read at first. They are that clever. But flags popped up one by one over the course of THREE years. I would happenstance interview his many enemies and countless exes. I received a few scary phone calls from his mentally abused wife. I saw things before my eyes that made my hair turn on end. caught him in so many obvious lies all with out even trying. BINGO - another N ..only this time i KNEW - so i went online, read books, considered other possibilities. So far every suggestion and article on what they are about and how to deal with an N has worked. I have to see this man every day, speak with him and deal with it and the people he hurts. Reel them in, Chew them up and spit them out. But because i was experiencee because i educated my self and becasue i KNEW - HE is not going to ruin my life or cost me my job like he did Dozens of others before me. If i am making a big mistake LABELING this insect an N even then so be it. It's my life and no one is going to tell me i cant decide for myself how not to be hurt again. Once again, MOST victims of narcissists do not have the luxury of bringing their spouses/coworker in for a diagnoses.