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What should you do if you are gay and you love your best friend?


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2011-09-13 13:02:36
2011-09-13 13:02:36

If you're gay you're gay, and if you're straight you're straight. You can't change someone who is straight, and if you manage then you are taking full of advantage of them. If your friend isn't gay then I wouldn't risk your friendship by putting this pressure on them. Things will never be the same between you after that even though you may remain friends. I know it's a terrible feeling knowing you love someone and can't say a word.

I suggest you start dating gays and leave your friendship the way it is. There is someone special out there for you.


AnswerIt's ok to love that person, but realize that they may not feel the same way about you. Drop hints that you like them and if you feel comfortable come out and tell them how you feel, just be aware that if they really are straight they may reject you and it may hurt your friendship. AnswerThat same thing happened to me like 2 or 3 times. You just have to be there for that person. Think about if you really want to ruin a good friendship or if that doesn't matter that much. I really don't know what sort of things you can do about it, but I didn't tell them and I think in my situation that was the correct things to do, because some friends just come and goes. Right now we are friends still but we talk very little, and I have a crush on some other people, so I think it was better this way. Public humiliation is not fun for anyone. Of course, I said public humiliation cause they were homophobic, it depends on where you live too. Think about if you really want it known to everyone around you that you are in love with a person of the same sex.


You have to really think this through if you should tell them or not. I fell in love with my best friend as well, and when I told her being young and naive we ended our friendship. It took a lot of time for her to get over it alittle and not react so much. Fortunately, she understood a little and wants to continue the friendship to a certain level. But keep in mind that not everyone is like that. You should make sure your friend isn't homophobic first, then drop hints like said above. I don't recommend saying anything if shes straight. If shes straight shes straight, just keep it to yourself. That way you keep your friend, and in the meantime you can find someone else eventually.


If you love your best friend that is your choice, and you can tell your friend that, but if you guys do date there is a 50/50 chance of messing up that friendship when you guys break up.

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