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What should you do if you are in a lesbian relationship with a girl who never wants sex but you are always horny and and think about sex constantly and fantasize about having sex with other girls?


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There are so many questions left unanswered in this. There could be a lot of different situations that is contributing to this problem. First age, how old are you and your girlfriend? Though age doesn't make the situation any less important it could have a bearing on what is going on in your girlfriends mind. Speak with her and let her know what you are feeling and all that is going on in your life. Get her to talk about her life and how she feels about this. There could be many things keeping her from opening up in this way.

When you are intimate with someone, you are opening yourself up to them in a way that makes you totally vulnerable. You can't hide your weaknesses, your flaws, or anything, it's the most emotional and (the only word to describe it) Intimate part of a relationship.

The only way to find out what is going on is to talk to her. Perhaps she is not ready to make that step, sex is a big step for a lot of people. Maybe she's questioning her sexuality and is a bit worried about how she really feels. Perhaps she is worried about STD's. If you are and have been totally faithful, then assure her of this, talk to her and find out what is going through her mind. It's not always easy to open up and speak about things that are so personal, but it's the only way to find out what you need to know.

Don't base your relationship on sex, however, after exploring all your options and discussing everything with your girlfriend, look at the situation and if intimacy is not there after all this, then perhaps it is time to move on.

== You should be honest with her and talk with her because in a relationship most peoples' needs have to be satisfied.

== Tell her how you feel about that.

== If the girl you live with isn't giving you the sex you need and you have talked to her about this matter and things haven't changed, then perhaps it is time to move on to someone who can please you. I don't think that there are many people who want to go to bed not sexually pleased and that goes for the straight community as well as the Gay community.

== I don't think this would be a good situation to be in anyway. If you really love the girl, stay with her and try to talk to her about it. If you are only in the relationship because she's a girl and you are attracted to that, then I guess it is time to move on.

== Take a cold shower if you get horny it may help. You could talk to you partner about you problems and try to take it easy.

== You should try talking to her about why she doesn't want to have sex. If her needs aren't being met emotionally or in any other way in your relationship, this may be a reason. Ask her if there is anything in your relationship that she wants or needs and is not getting. If that is the case, then try to meet some of her needs and I'm sure she'll return the favor and meet yours. If that's not the case and she just isn't feeling sexual or just doesn't want to meet you half way, then maybe you should both move on.

== All of these answers are correct but I feel exactly the same as you!!! I'm also in a lesbian relationship like you and have the same trouble. I'm ALWAYS horny and would love some fun but my other half is just well not interested.

== The best solution would be to talk to her about your feelings towards sex and that you care for her and you want to show it. Also, masturbation should help rid you of those urges. Do not tell her that you're just horny. Let her know that sex will build your relationship and will help you bond and feel more comfortable with each other. If she's worried about STD's then have you both get tested just to make her feel better and take the worries off her mind. Good Luck!!

== It is not up to us to judge, but it would seem that a situation where one party withholds something that the other deems vitally important is more of a control issue than a loving relationship. That being the case, a search for someone who is truly a soul mate would seem to be in order.