What should you do if you just caught your boyfriend of eight years cheating on you with another man and you always thought your relationship was perfect?



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You didn't mention if you were the same gender or you are the ex girlfriend. No matter whether you are the same gender or not, cheating is the lowest form and there is NO excuses. Mistakes happen and we all can make them, but, if we don't learn from them then we are in for a rough trip. Often people make the mistake that if their sex life is great with little to no disagreements in the relationship they have it made, but, in fact, it's communication and paying attention to your mate that is more important. There were probably signs you missed (not your fault.) We, as humans have a tendency to take people at their word when we love them. Many people have secret lives right under the nose of their wives, husbands, boyfriends/girlfriends, friends and family. You have done nothing wrong and were proud of your relationship thinking it was honest, loyal and long-standing and it's your ex that is the culprit and will take the flack for this one. This person simply didn't have the guts to be honest with you and didn't respect you as far as how this would hurt your feelings. Don't let one person ruin it for others that may come into your life. For each relationship that fails we learn a little more wisdom. We go through a grieving period (just as if a death of a loved one occurred) and you have a right to that grief, but eventually it will come time for you to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back out in the land of the living. Realize that many people have been cheated by their so-called lovers (husbands/boyfriends, etc.) and you aren't the first nor will you be the last. Eventually you'll just get plain angry and that's a good sign because that means you are ticked with your ex for what he did. After the anger subsides then your life will start fresh again. Good luck