I would not stay with anyone that didn't love me. Even if we had children together, I would leave or tell him to leave. If you decided to stay together, whenever he was late coming home, or didn't answer your calls, you would always have the question in your head "Is he with her"! Mental abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. Love yourself more!! it's a cool question!, i will tell u what to do best. is only works if u stopped loving him or otherwise don't read it. it's simple. start making a relationship with a man and invite him to your house when your husband is there too! then start kissing him and then go to bed and say loaudly (lets go have sex darling)and let him say that you r a sexy woman. this will let ur husband very angry and anxtious!this will let him to go up to ur room.and after that magic happens! The same situation happened to me. An affair with a co-worker, It took a year of living a life that I thought we would make it forever, he waited until my mom came up to visit for my birthday and told me in front of the children and my mom that he wanted the other woman. The entire last year was nothing but empty promises to me that he wanted to make our marriage work. He bought me 3 romance movies, 3 birthday cakes, and romance perfume by Ralph Lauren for my birthday and asked me if he could stay in the basement until he found it convenient to move out. Needless to say, I kicked him out and within 3 months of our divorce, his mistress had gotten her divorce (which she left her 3 children the baby being 2) and they married. Joyfully, the grass was not greener on the other side and happiness is not real forthcoming in their home. You need to kick out the cheating spouse and start living life the way it was meant to be lived. Having been divorced for almost a year, I didn't realize how good life really can be! If it's just the two of you, you can't trust him and you know it. If children are involved you need to reevaluate the situation to provide them with some stability.