When you have been in an on-again off-again relationship with someone for 8 years and it has become more of a comfort love than a real love how do you let go for good without caring who he dates?

Hmm, looks as though you need to decide the motive for this. Are you more concerned that since he is such a nice person you want to make sure he finds someone suitable to you, or do you feel a jelousy pang when you see him with another? If you feel defensive, you may have more than just a "comfort" level of love for him. If you feel more like a big sister then it is some what natural to take a vested interest in who he dates.

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There is no way to let go without still caring about what the other person is doing and who they are dating. The only thing you can do is go out and date yourself. The more distance you put between the relationship and yourself the easier it will be. You will always care for the other person but the manor in which you care changes over time.

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Like my best friend used to tell me.....'Girl, leave him alone!'. I was in the same boat as you. I just learned to separate myself completely. No phone calls, booty calls, text, or e-mail. Time will heal you, as well as your new and improved dating life. Get a new haircut, or treat yourself to something kick a**. Go to VEGAS!!