Which country has the most lesbians?
We cannot know the answer to that. Many countries deem it a stoning offense, so for those people , it's definitely a don't ask, don't tell situation.
Finding behaviors that are not problematic to society hot is not necessarily a bad thing. If lesbians are the only thing that turns you on and you are a male this will be problematic as lesbians aren't going to want to have sex with you. For the most part, finding lesbians attractive is common in males. It really isn't a problem.
Lesbians usually are friends with other lesbians and so they have their friends find dates for them. Or lesbians look up the local lesbian bar (or lesbian night at the gay bar) in their city and go and offer to someone cute a drink. Or lesbians take their dogs to the local dog park/dog beach and scope out the other lesbians there and make small talk with them. Or lesbians make friends with another lesbian…