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Both of you are abusive to each other. You need counseling. Family counseling and anger management counseling.

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Q: Who is the abuser in your marriage if you have been married for 19 years and you once slapped your husband in the face when he called you a slut?
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How What if your ex husband abuser get remarried and look not abuser to new wife?

Give him time. He will.

How do you make your husband realize he is an emotional abuser?

tell him or record it and make him listen to it

How do you tell if your husband is considered a verbal abuser?

Please see the links below.

My ex abuser husband can be remarried and showing the never was abuser is true and he did not want and interested to see our 2 boys WA?

You need to rephrase this, there is no question here

What are the conditions that a church grant annulment of a marriage?

Before consummating marriage if their partner is an abuser or if they the don't want to have any more children.

Is it possible to forgive your husband when he sexually assaulted your fourteen year old niece?

It is possible to forgive anything but that doesn't mean forgetting. I would not want a rapist / child abuser as a husband. They will only attack again. A wife of a child abuser isn't a real wife.

Is a badly treated married woman off limits?

Yes, as far as having a relationship with her she is still married. However, when a woman is verbally or mentally abused she needs to have the courage to leave that marriage and, if you want to give her the information to pack up when her husband is not around and go to an Abused Woman's Center as close to her town or city as possible you should stay out of it. If you just want to sneak around with her telling yourself you are helping her you could well cause her more grief with her abuser not to mention that her abuser may well turn on you. Once she receives the help and is on her own and independent is the time you start to see her if you love her.

Can a Marriage Counselor Stop an abuser to be an abuser?

Answer The answer to your question is NO. Marriage Counserlors are just that, and they specialize in their field, but your abuser will have to go to someone special who deals with Abusers to find out why he or she abuses. Maybe something from their childhood, but whatever the case be, if I were you I wouldn't live one minute with an abuser as they make all kinds of promises and keep none of them. They are sick people who for one reason or another can't help themselves, but they can surely reap havoc on the people who love them most. Be careful not to believe the lies that comes from this person's mouth as that's about the only thing an abuser is good at. Lying!!!!

If your husband threatened your girlfriend on the phone to stay out of our business should you stay in the marriage?

Verbal abuse wears many forms. Isolating you from your friends is a form of control freakery. If this is an isolated event, you may overlook it, forgive, and forget. But if this is a repetitive behavior - he is an abuser.

My ex abuser husband can be remarried and showing the never was abuser is true?

Unless your ex has a police record/jail time for DV, there would be no way to tell. A private Detective can access old records.

What to do if you ask your husband to leave and he wont leave because he has no where to go?

Evaluate the reasons why you want your husband to leave. How long have you been married-do you have children together? Have the two of you been to marriage counseling and have you both made an honest effort to "fix" the problems? It always takes two to make or break a marriage-trust me, I'm on my third(widowed after 6 years from the first who raped me and beat the living h#@@ outta me almost everyday and divorced from the second). If this is a abuse situation, forget anything I mentioned and also forget about the fact that your husband has no place to go and get yourself out. If he's an abuser, he's not gonna change no matter what he says. Best of luck to you in the future= )

When a abused person leaves and the abuser goes straight into another relationship will the abuser still try to get back at them?

I have been abused by my so called husband and when i left, till today he has never tryied to even call.

What should you do if you are married to a domestic abuser and have a 7 year old daughter that the abuser has spread lies about?

Your best action is to leave him. He's not going to change. Seek legal advice and get away.

What is an animal abuser called?

Animal Abuser or Animal Cruelty Abuser

What is an emotional abuser?

An emotional abuser is someone who is constantly belittling another. Example: If a husband is an emotional abuser he will call his wife every dirty thing in the book; tell her she is ugly or fat; not a good cook; not a good mother, etc., to lower her self worth and self esteem. It is a form of control the emotional abuser needs and they have generally learned this pattern of behavior from the environment in which they grew up.

Is there hope that an abuser can change and you can still have a good marriage?

You two should seek counseling. Good luck and God Bless:)

Was David Pelzer a child abuser?

No he is not a child abuser.

Can an abuser change when he sees he has a problem and is willing to get counseling to work on his marriage and his anger?

No, because, serial abusers will never change. I am currently in the same situation. I am married and not even domestic violent classes help my soon to be ex-husband. I think age has alot to do with it too because, he is 49 years old. Depending on the personal data and the psychodynamic profile of the abuser, his cultural and social background, age, profession, level of education, and extent of motivation to preserve the relationship. Some busers can definitely be helped and success stories abound. During my experience of 12 years of mental and physical abuse, regardless of the "so-called" remorse displayed, the abuser must have a sincere believe that what he is doing is wrong. The abuser must make a conscious decision to change his way of thinking and implement that into his way of daily living. Unfortunately, abusers have often avoided owning up to their responsibility of change because tey generally shift the attention to the victim.

How do you handle abusive relationships?

I was dealing with one myself and the only choice I had was to stop hiding. Usually in a abusive environment, the abuser will force you not to tell. The only obvious answer is to do exactly the opposite of what the abuser tells you. Make sure you do it when your alone and when he won't find out. If the abuser is in physical contact with you then you should tell police or a person you trust that can do it for you( without the abuser knowing). Get out of the house, if you have children then get them out as well, go to a friend/ family member that the abuser doesn't know about. If the abuser knows all your family members and friends then go to a hotel ( bring money ) and make sure there is no trace of evidence that the abuser will pick up and know your there. Once at the hotel, call the police. If your married then tell someone how you feel about your abusive partner and consider a divorce.

How can I get a divorce in an abused marriage?

First of all you need to get yourself somewhere where you are safe from your abuser. You then need to get help from an attorney (lawyer) to advice you have to go about getting your divorce.

What does it mean when you dream about your ex husband that you divorced due to abuser and the dream was i went back to him?

It means you want him back, but you have this feeling that you can't have him back. Do you get what i'm saying?

What to do if a friend is married to an abuser and she wants you to come visit them?

Well you can visit and offer some friendly advice. Visiting is way of showing love.

When was Love Your Abuser created?

Love Your Abuser was created on 2007-01-30.

What is the definition of an abuser?

An abuser is someone who attacks people with words, violence, or neglection. An abuser is also some who uses something axcessively or is addicted to something.

Are you the abuser or the one being abused if your husband always irritates you and drives you to a point where you are raging and yelling?

He's the verbal abuser and you are not the abuser, but, enough is enough. No one wants to walk around their mate like they are waiting for a bomb to go off. Even the meakest of people will get fed up and fight back. We're all just human and if someone is yelling and screaming and you can't calm them down then sometimes we lose it too. We aren't perfect. It would be a good idea for you to either seek marriage counseling or separate for a while and give each of you a chance to see what possibly could be causing him to have these outbursts. If he refuses to do anything about it, then I'd move on. Good luck Marcy