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I believe people should be happy and since you were both in love 23 years ago and that love has not gone away (why did it?) then it's unfair of both of you having an affair on your spouses and not coming clean. If you love each other that much then you should be honest to yourselves, your mates, get divorced and marry. True love (if we are lucky to get it) only comes around once. I have no idea why you didn't persue it 23 years ago. Remember, by cheating (and it is cheating) your spouses deserve more honesty and courtesy and, it appears you and your lover are very much in love. So, talk it over with your lover and then come clean with your spouses. It will hurt them, but you are hurting them worse by sneaking around. Marcy

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Q: Why can't you let your lover go if you're both married to other people and have been having an affair for 2 years and he was your first love over 23 years ago?
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