Why did he dump me after mentally abusing me for the past 2 years I wasn't happy but felt too weak to get out yet he just dumped me saying he couldn't be the person he really was?
Mental or physical abusers are the way they are and he has no
'was'. In other words he isn't the person he really was (if he was
truly anything, but a mental abuser) because if he realized he had
problems he should have gotten counseling for it a long time ago.
He'll continue on with behavior no matter what girl he goes with.
On the other hand sometimes when two people stay in a relationship
and they just don't get along he may have stayed trying to work
things out, but all it ended up being was him becoming frustrated,
falling out of love, wanting to be free and so he left. All of us
can slip up and say things we don't mean to people whether we love
them or not and it's out of frustration more than anything. He may
have been abusive so YOU would have left HIM which would have made
things easier on him instead of being a man, sitting down with you
and simply telling you he wanted out of the relationship. Hon, you
need some counseling and you need to know you are self sufficient,
independent and in control if you so choose and that when a woman
learns she doesn't always need to rely on a man then her
relationships with men are more productive. I wish you good