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Why did your husband make love to you while he was cheating?


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2010-09-19 20:58:28
2010-09-19 20:58:28

Scientists give the excuse that men's deep-rooted feelings for cheating go back to the days of cavemen. However, most women an non-cheating men would disagree!

Women don't sit around chewing hides these days the last time I looked and many of us can have monogamous relationships and so, men can too.

Some men are just immature, need stroking and told that they are men (which in most cases these types of men aren't) and they like to use women. They are usually in denial while having their fling with another woman and inside think you're crazy and it's "their right" to have this affair. NOT!

A high percentage of women deeply believe in their relationships as lasting forever, while men think differently and don't focus on the relationship so readily. This is why it's so important for couples to really communicate with each other, so the men can say what they have to say and the women have their voice in things and the two can come to a fair decision about their problems.

In ways, I feel sorry for men. Up until the 1960s the men were brought up to work hard, provide for their families, etc., etc. while the wives stayed home and cooked, cleaned had their children and raised the children basically on their own. To have a wife work back then was a sign the man was weak or lazy and the man was looked down upon. Women ran themselves ragged trying to please their men. Mothers back in those days (even to this day) are more apt to spoil the young men in the family than the girls.

This pattern of "normalcy" changed during the 2nd World War, when men went to fight and women had to take over men's jobs (and they did it well.) Once the men came back from war, the women were basically told by the government to "go home, cook, clean and raise your children." Women, of course, refused to return to docile lives stuck in the domicile. So, from then on, many women had the choice of not only raising families and working, but had the opportunity of getting a better education. This has actually bothered men for many decades and now they simply don't know what to do with so-called "independent women." The tides have turned and everything appears as if it has been turned upside down as far as the men are concerned. Even some women are confused because they are lead to believe they must be all things ... wife, mother and working gal. Smart women know we have choices.

So, your husband is getting away with it because now you know he's cheating on you and you are enabling him to act out with this rotten behavior. Kick his butt out of the house and move on! There is someone out there for you that will treat you in the manner in which you deserve.

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If your husband wants her then hewill keep her. Obviously he does. GET OUT NOW!!!!

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Answer is does it really matter how long he has been cheating? He has been cheating. You can ask him but it won't make it any better knowing all the details. You know the only detail that matters he betrayed you.

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no! what is your husband doing to make you want to leave!

because love is the key to friendship and friendship make lifetime romance

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LOve can't be forced. sorry to break it to you but you can't make yourself fall in love with someone.

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